Depressed and Confused (what are your views)

[gg1234]

Let me start by saying I am educated women .I did my Bachlors and then masters and Then I got married and came to UK for good .I just did a 2 year job working in HR in my country that was great .I started doing CIPD as soon as I landed up here thinking I might get a job soon but years passed and I havent got a single take .I took time to adjust to culture and other things .It basically takes time :) .Now when I am just finished I am preg , I am 31 years old so not too young to have a baby ( Evryone says that ).What should I do ? I cant have best of both worlds but I seriously Need a job now to support my baby .My hubby says there is no need to work for the next 2 years as it is full time job in itself but I cant be a housewife.I feel depressed being a women .FIrst time in my life I feel women are so weak ...Please help and suggest some thing that motiavtes me to get ahead in life ...Can people go back to work even after long gaps ?

Hi GG,
I'm so sorry to hear you're in such a negative frame of mind. It seems as if the timing of all this isn't very good for you.
Yes of course people can go back to work after long gaps. I took 11 years out myself, but it depends on the job market, and from what you say, you haven't been able to find a job at the moment.

It doesn't sound as if you want to be a SAHM though.

Could you do some voluntary work whilst you are pregnant that is related to HR? I'm sure there are charities who might welcome your skills. Contact your local council/library - they should be able to signpost you to your local Volunteer Centre.
As I'm sure you're aware, gaining a foot in the door and networking can really help you get back into the job market FT when you're ready.

Alternatively, you could consider combining FT work & motherhood. Childcare is usually available, although it can work out expensive...

Whatever you and your DH decide, you do have options both now and in the future.
Good luck