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I want to give up work and be a SAHM help me!

19 replies

chjlly · 28/06/2006 11:50

I need to persuade dh that it is a good idea and that we can afford it if I had some form of income (am happy to work a few nights or something!) but am fed up with trying to be a Mum and working full time for cra@p money and everything around me being a mess

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expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 11:53

how about gambling online?

i don't know if it will work for everyone, but my mum does it and earns a tidy 'travel' income -my dad's retired and they use her winnings to do even MORE travelling, but that's having grown up kids for ya.

i've considered it. BUT my mum comes from a card-playing family. she's played all her life, and plays in poker leagues, bridge clubs, etc. she also deals. so she has lots of experience and knows how to play well.

she only plays poker, but is now good enough to compete!

MeAndMyBoy · 28/06/2006 11:59

Chjlly I am doing this - I run a home business that me and DH got into about 12 mths ago, didn't have any experience and have been supported all the way which makes it much easier to do than trying to go in blind. If your interested in knowing a bit more drop me a line shapeworksuk at yahoo dot co dot uk - just change the at and dots to @ and .

Trying to juggle everything is bloomin awful, I get so stressed knowing as soon as it hits 5pm I have to leave as fast as I can to get DS and home and food on the table by 5.30 and then clear up and bath and bed and stories all by 7!!! and when we add #2 into this there is no way I'm going to cope.

purpleprincess · 28/06/2006 12:00

What a weird suggestion - the gambling one I mean!! Not really a reliable income and not anything I would think of personally.

Chjilly - are you sure that this is what you want to do - permanently. It will be a big difference to be home all the time and obviously I dont know your financial situation but quite a lot to consider. Have you thought about reducing your hours and asking for more flexible working (if you have children under 6 employers have to consider etc). I have no idea what you do or if this would be appropriate or not. I currently work 3 full days and ideally would like to do less but employers have just asked me to do an extra day i.e. go up to 4 full days. I said no!! waiting to see what they come up with - will be interesting!

Good luck whatever you decide.

expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 12:04

'What a weird suggestion - the gambling one I mean!! Not really a reliable income and not anything I would think of personally.'

Why's that weird? You'd be surprised how many people make a living off it. If you're a skilled player and know what you're doing, it can work.

I know of another professional gambler here in town, a woman, who used to work as a croupier on cruise ships and started gambling online to supplement her income when she was writing for British Airways travel magazine and now does it for a living. She earns about £50,000/pa.

As she says, you can pick and chose when you work, and stop when you like, whereas, if you're in a casino, it's customary to play on after you've had a big win.

expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 12:04

FWIW, my mother made about £12,000 last year.

they're now on a golf course tour of scotland.

LucyJones · 28/06/2006 12:06

I did this. I gave up a part time job to be a SAHM but took on a Saturday morning job just to keep the cash coming in a bit. It only amounts to a £100 a month but at least I don't have to ask dh for money for going out or clothes etc.

RubyRioja · 28/06/2006 12:09

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NormaStitts · 28/06/2006 12:12

Oh just do it! Point out you'll be saving the nursery fees,reducing fuel costs etc,etc even down to not having to buy clothes for work . Tell him you'll be a domestic goddess and have a sparkling clean house-doesn't matter if in reality you don't cos by then it'll be too late

expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 12:15

i was a little taken aback, ruby, when my mum told me.

when they came up - they are in scotland most of the summer - this year i noticed she was really enjoying the shopping, even more so than usual.

of course, i've grown up w/her bridge club, bunco club, poker clubs, etc. she's played cards w/some of these ladies for nearly 40 years. nothing new in that! her parents were card sharks, i can remember spending hours playing w/my grandfather's poker chips, dice, etc.

then she told me about pokerstars.com.

my mother, however, has ALWAYS been a cautious, conservative and sensible gambler. it's ALWAYS card games and always on her own skills.

she also never drinks whilst playing cards and plays w/i a set budget.

she used to go to Vegas every year and play downtown.

there was one famous time when she went w/her sister and came back w/$17,000 in cash.

Kayleigh · 28/06/2006 12:17

chjlly , I have recently given up a part-time job in the city to be at home more with my kids. I have started my own business selling, educational books, toys & games through Mini IQ. I started in September last year while I was still working to make sure I could make a go of it, and I left my job in April. I haven't replaced my salary (yet!!!) but am bringing in some money and am confident that my business will grow.I work the hours I want to and fit it in around my kids. If you are interested CAT me and I can give you some more info.

purpleprincess · 28/06/2006 12:18

No offence meant Expat it is just something I'm not really aware of as dont know anyone who does it and not a gambler myself. Heard of being an ebay trader as well so that is another option.

Not very good at taking risks me!

RubyRioja · 28/06/2006 12:18

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expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 12:19

your winnings in the UK are tax free, ruby.

lucykate · 28/06/2006 12:20

i think that to take up gambling might be ok for someone who's a free agent, each to their own and all that, but not so sure its something someone with small children should consider. it can be dangerously addictive.

expatinscotland · 28/06/2006 12:20

i'm not a gambler myself, but for someone who may have the skill and experience and self-control, it can and does work as a side income.

RubyRioja · 28/06/2006 12:23

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chjlly · 28/06/2006 12:37

I think I would like to have a break for 6 months initially but maybe do something in the evening or from home ds starts School in September and dd would be at pre school early next year so could maybe do something part time.

I don't think gambling is really my thing I think I would end up losing more than I won!

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NormaStitts · 28/06/2006 12:40

You could be a childminder & I'll pay you to look after my children

purpleprincess · 28/06/2006 12:46

As I mentioned earlier I currently work 3 full days and company have just asked me to go up to 4 days. Then my CM decided to give me notice as she is starting work at pre-school in September. This all came at once and has led to alot of soul searching for me. Do i want to continue working here or at all -what about finances etc My DS also starts school Sep and DD will start pre-school next Sep so definitely dont want to do more hourse. I'm applying for a job in a school but not really sure if want to give up work completely - would be difficult to get back in after some time out for the kids as well. See not enough of a risk taker to just ditch it all. Interested to see what you decide to do. Good luck.

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