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Dilemma re pt job bullying

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Eloise01 · 28/09/2013 18:03

Work several evenings a week as an adult tutor - on top of a full time job. DH's work unpredictable and until he finds secure work, feel the need to carry on because the extra money is sorely needed. Of course, very tired and can't wait to cut down the hours or get rid of them altogether.

The actual work is OK - but for several years now I've had a lot of hassle, tantamount at times to downright bullying, from a sort of middle manager and from a couple of admin people. This past week I've had several emails which are downright rude and even sarcastic. For no rhyme or reason - I do my job, am always courteous in my dealings with these people but for some reason they are, to quote DH, very, very nasty.

I've taken my concerns to management before but have been brushed aside. It really is the oddest set up. I belong to a union in my main job but there is no union recognition in this part time post. (HR volunteered that piece of info in an email to me about something else.) If unions were recognised, it would in fact be the one I belong to.

Feel so despondent - - getting emails and kind of dreading opening them for fear, which is all too often realised, that they'll be petty, unpleasant and even, as in the case of the ones I got last week, very rude. But we need the money for now.

Feel like handing in my notice - feel like going for constructive dismissal - don't feel like going through a complaints procedure that hasn't, in the past, been followed in any shape or form. But wondering, tired though I am of doing these two jobs and putting up with such nastiness in job no 2, if I shouldn't hang on, somehow, until DH gets work, keep a log of incidents in the meantime and then leave via a letter to someone like the chair of the board (this adult ed org is, believe it or not, a charity having been part of the local authority until quite recently).

Thoughts or suggestions would be really welcome.

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Chottie · 28/09/2013 20:48

I am really sorry to hear about this bullying, life sounds tough enough at the moment without having all this aggressive behaviour.

Is the charity a well known one? if so they will have policies and procedures in place. How about the other tutors working for the college, do they have the same problems? Good luck

mrsm22 · 28/09/2013 21:51

I can totally relate to this as someone I work with clearly has a dislike of me too and is making work very hard for me, to the point where I am thinking about leaving. I know I am being bullied by this person but I too feel that when I say this to anyone such as my manager, it is brushed aside and I am told that 'we all want a happy team '!

LilMissSunshine9 · 29/09/2013 23:39

I was bullied by a co worker for 12 months and raised it with snr management and they did nothing I raised a formal grievance in the end and they had to investigate it formally and all has worked out now. I am not sure from your post whether you raised a formal grievance or not but if not you should

mariefab · 30/09/2013 20:32

Is the rudeness/nastiness/sarcasm related to your part-time status?

NotYoMomma · 01/10/2013 07:48

I raised a formal grievance at work (ie not just told my concerns to manager) and they HAVE to investigate it properly. I dont know why more people do this tbh - if you onow your manager is a bit of a brusher under the carpeter

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