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I do anyway but should I feel guilty?

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Crocodilehunter · 27/09/2013 19:21

Work have put me in a bit of an awkward position!

2 colleagues were having a conversation yesterday and the subject got on to colleague A's family member who also works at the same place.

Colleague B was ranting to A about an incident they had with A's family member and they ended up name calling that person to A.
A seemed v upset & went home shortly after.

Anyway this morning, I get pulled in to an office to ask what I heard, didn't even think and just reeled off what I knew. Only when I got out did I think 'oh shit, why didn't I just play dumb'
I felt bad for A yesterday but now feel bad for B thinking i've just bloody landed them in it!

I'm such an idiot, I swore I'd keep my head down when I got back of mat leave & now I'm right back in the circus Sad

Don't know what kind of reply's I'm looking for but just needed somewhere to off load!

I suppose I'm wondering how I'm going to play it from here on in.

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scurryfunge · 27/09/2013 19:23

I think you should see it as landing themselves in it. You were being honest which you can't be criticised for.

LilMissSunshine9 · 29/09/2013 23:36

you know having being bulled by a team member for 12 months and despite raising it with snr management it enraged me with the bully started on colleague no 2 and colleague no 2 came to me to rant about it saying they felt bad that it happened to me - colleague 2 said nothing to support me and came expecting me to support her. Sorry but if unwelcome behaviour occurs at work and you witness it you should say something especially if you are asked about what you saw. I am sure in your company policy there is something along the lines that intimidation of people who speak out is unacceptable and treated seriously...

BrownSauceSandwich · 30/09/2013 18:32

Oh god no... You have to be honest and impartial in these sorts of things. Probably best that you did reel it off without thinking as it makes you less likely to (unintentionally) edit. It's really, really not up to you to judge the implications, and you certainly don't know all the circumstances. If this is bullying, your withholding information would have been complicity, in my opinion. This way you've passed all you know onto the appropriate authority, so you've absolved yourself of all responsibility.

Andro · 01/10/2013 18:00

I suppose I'm wondering how I'm going to play it from here on in.

The matter is now clearly in the hands of management so if you were my employee my advice to you would have been:

"Thank you for your candor, it is appreciated. Should anyone ask you about either the incident or this meeting, please advise them that it would be inappropriate for you to comment on the incident and you have been instructed to treat this meeting as confidential."

Basically be pleasant, polite and professional - leave management to deal with the matter.

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