tell all before I go or stay silent?

[guffaw]

I'm going to change jobs soon - same organisation, different department. I'm both happy and relieved to be transferring.

My manager of the past 2 years has been a trial to me - I think she dislikes me, but may be being over-sensitive.

We work on different sites.She has cancelled a couple of meetings, telling everyone else except me, I turn up to be told its been cancelled by reception staff.

On a couple of meetings I've arrived, only to be told by her, in front of other attendees, that I am 'not needed' for this meeting, and she 'should have told me, sorry'.

She has taken over a couple of tasks I would usually do, telling me barely any of the details, which makes it difficult for me to do other parts of my role.

Not once has she said anything negative to me about my performance in supervision or appraisal.(I suspect she says stuff to more senior managers) I've asked her directly on a few occasions, saying I prefer an open and honest approach, she just says I'm too hard on myself.

When I've wanted to sort something out, she becomes an ostrich - leave it alone, never returns my calls or emails, then when it blows up, reluctantly meets up with me.

I'm tempted to put it all in my exit questionnaire, but as I'm going in to a post in the same organisation, will it backfire on me?

bye the way, I've got on remarkable well with previous managers, some of whom I keep in touch with, on a professional level, and have always had excellent appraisals.

I think if you put the kind of thing you have put here in an exit questionnaire you are going to look very petty, and I would question what you hoped to achieve by doing so.

I would suggest you just move on.

Keep it to yourself - you never know when your paths may cross again!

2 of my colleagues, who aren't moving on, have put in grievances regarding our manager's behaviour towards them, (being investigated at present) another who has just left put various issues that manager would not deal with in her exit questionnaire, another who has just left, said nothing to HR.(though lots to me) Me and another colleague who are leaving hadn't decided what to do.

I've always followed flowery's advice to others, and will heed your advice here, and will just move on.

The things you describe don't sound serious at all, which is why it will sound petty bringing them up in an "exit" questionnaire now.

For other people her behaviour has been serious enough to raise a grievance. This means she is already very much on the radar of management and HR, which might have been a reason for raising it yourself.

As you are moving anyway, and will no longer be managed by her, I can therefore not see anything to be gained by reporting her in this way.

You may be asked your view as part of a grievance investigation anyway.

I haven't put much detail in, so I guess on the surface it might seem 'petty' - it hasn't felt petty to be honest, I've felt devalued and undermined, all of which I've raised with her, over the past 2 years, however, as I said, I'll just 'move on', I really feel I'm going to enjoy my new role, my new manager is being very welcoming and throughout the recruitment and my notice period is being encouraging, so 'hey ho' but I agree, I dont think anything will be gained, and nothing I write in the exit questionnaire would be new information anyway.