employer being unfair want to change but also get pregnant asap

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am in such dilemma. My current employer is not very nice to me since I return work after having my first baby. I am a manager in a professional firm with 6 months notice.

I returned work after 6 months maternity leave. The first thing my boss said to me in my annual review is that he did not notice any difference when i was working and when I was off, the reason partly being that he was not in the office at the same time. Then I was told that my scope of work and my role and responsibilities will be changed because my firm did not get the clients base they were hoping for. my job title would remain unchanged however, I did not get any pay rise either.

I now have returned work for 6 months. My boss had a meeting with me last week voicing his concerns over my performance namely

1. attendance, I was asked to be at the office 10-15 minutes before my contract time of 8.30. I normally arrive office around 8.30. I told him that ''I however do not have coffee or tea in the morning, nor do I have any tea break during the day. I come in straight sit at my desk working. I was told that I should be here early anyway.

1. was criticised for not having initiative. The reason I was given was that I did not go to his office to ask if he has any work to be delegated to me. I do not think that he is being reasonable here as I expected a boss in his level to delegate rather than staff going to his office every morning to ask for work. I was however told that from now on I should at least ask him 2 or 3 times in a week for work.

1. was criticised over other little things as well such as once i was unable to work on the assignment due to other commitments. Even though this is the first time in my 6 years career with this firm that this has happened.

1. my boss rejected one hour leave which as taken out of my holiday to see a GP due to short notice ( I request the leave one day before the appointment). Another one day leave was also rejected which I gave 3 days notice due to short notice again.

There are also other things in general which are firms' policy i think it is unfair such as not allowed to use mobile phone at all at work, receive warning if more than 3 times late in a 6 months period, the length tea break is being monitored. I have not breached these policies before but It does affect me every now and then there is a email reiterating the companies policy sent by the boss or HR.

I am thinking of having a baby soon and I do not think i am being treated fairly at my current work place, it really affects me now. I do not know if I should stay and get pregnant then quit after maternity leave. Change jobs now, means waiting for 6 months notice and settle into the new place for at least 6 months before I could get pregnant again which seems like a really long time considering that I am now in my late 30s.

Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks.

I would expect a manager to manage upwards and it doesn't sound like you're doing that.

If the boss points out deficiencies, like not showing initiative by asking for work, then what's the problem with doing what he asks?

Ditto the 8.15 start - can you do that? If so, why not do it and make sure he knows you are doing it? Try to improve your relationship with him before deciding you're being treated unfairly.

Also , I don't know how important this is to your role, but from your post, your written communication isn't that great - is that a factor in your boss being critical too?

Does everyone go in 15 minutes before their start time? If so then they are not being unfair.
Why do you have a problem with going to the boss to ask for work? Your boss isn't aware of who needs to be given work, because surely the boss has other things to concentrate on. For numerous reasons it makes sense for you to get up and see him rather than him coming to see you and others.
The little things depends on what the little things are.
Holidays notice usually does come with a minimum amount of time notice is required.
Most companies state no using mobile phones. Don't see the issue there. Same with not surfing the net either. You are paid to work, not chat, text, email etc.
The warnings, again a standard thing. The alternative, let everyone do what they want. Same with breaks monitored.
I don't think I breach any policies, well never been pulled about them anyway. But every couple of weeks, we are reminded of policies. Even have them in writing in key areas of the building. I don't take offence of these. I don't think my boss is treating me unfairly.

What you have described happens in most work places. Unless I have been unlucky. Moving companies wont change this. You will still be expected to maintain the same standards. Show initiative. Not use mobile. Plus adhere to countless other policies.

A bit more background information on the company if not all but most of the staff work unpaid overtime for at least an hour on a daily basis. When this was raised in the meeting. I was told that its individuals personal choice to work overtime.