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DH boss horrific threatening language whilst on our holiday

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 21:56

We are on holiday in the uk and dh's boss has been a nightmare ringing him about various issues and saying 'he has a noose around his neck which is getting tighter' All the issues can wait till we get back and are normal cash flow related issues with a new business start up of which dh is an employee. He's being fucking unreasonable, dh is upset and worried, he's not been paid either. It's ruined our holiday to be honest and we still have a week left. I have no idea what to do.

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NarkyNamechanger · 04/08/2013 21:59

Stop answering the phone?

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 22:03

He's left 20 voicemails and 15 texts, we ae in Cornwall so signal hit & miss, dh does not want to ignore it as that would make it worse and delay the problem, the man is fucking relentless

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Pennies · 04/08/2013 22:05

How long has he not been paid for? Is he an employee or a contractor?

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking · 04/08/2013 22:08

Turn phone off and do not switch it bak on till you are back home and ave unpacked. Cheeky fucker!

LEMisdisappointed · 04/08/2013 22:10

he is bullying your DH and he needs to do something about it, is this guy the boss boss or does he have superiors? an HE department?

You need to confiscate the phone, i assume you have a phone so that family can contact you in an emergency - this guy needs to back the fuck off!

Picturesinthefirelight · 04/08/2013 22:12

This is why it is a good idea to have two phones. A normal contract one for friends & family & a cheap payg for work. When on holiday the work one stays at home.

I'm back at work tomorrow. I charged my phone up and turned it on for the first time in 3 weeks tonight.

SwedishEdith · 04/08/2013 22:15

Don't answer him any more but don't delete the voicemails or texts as they are evidence that may support any future complaint/greivance your husband raises about him. It's not on.

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 22:25

I really want to text his boss (the only boss there is) and tell him that he's bang out of order with his 'noose' comments, but I know this is a bad idea, or shall I? I know him a bit, DH is working his arse off and here I am

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 22:27

...... on holiday full of indigestion, heartburn and up with worry and no where near sleep, have been short with the children today and feel dreadful about it & it's all to do with that twat

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FunnysInLaJardin · 04/08/2013 22:30

I had a few work phone calls while on holiday which were non urgent plus some texts. I turned my phone off and will say if asked that I had no signal when I get back tomorrow. It's very rude imo to try to contact someone on holiday and really there is no excuse for it. No one should be that indispensable.

FunnysInLaJardin · 04/08/2013 22:32

oh and I have 2 phones and I turned the home one to silent as work try to contact me on that too. A precedent needs to be set!

FringeEvent · 04/08/2013 22:34

I don't really understand the noose comment? What does he mean?

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 22:37

Does it matter what it means? Is threatening hanging reasonable behaviour? No!!!!

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Chubfuddler · 04/08/2013 22:39

Is he actually threatening your husband? Who is the "he" in your sentence? I took it to read that the boss is under massive pressure not that he's going to lynch your husband.

In any case the volume of texts and calls is excessive and intrusive. Why doesn't your husband just tell him to leave him alone?

FringeEvent · 04/08/2013 22:42

Sorry grants, I honestly didn't understand what the boss meant by it - I see now, it was a threat (and a really nasty one too - what a tosser). I thought it was some sort of metaphor that I didn't get Blush

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 04/08/2013 22:42

This is not going to help in the short term but your DH needs to look for another job. In the meantime, can he just tell the boss in no uncertain terms not to ring or text again as he's on holiday and he'll discuss the issues when he's back at work.

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 22:42

Boss to dh saying noose comment ie: if x, y & z does not happen the noose will tighten and he (dh) will be sorry.

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Chubfuddler · 04/08/2013 22:44

Well clearly the man is quite mad and your dh needs to tell him to do one.

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 22:49

He's supposed to be calling his boss every other day, dh agreed to this under this verbal abuse & pressure. I have said he should text him tomorrow to tell him he won't be available until Monday next week and if anything arises he will update him via text. Also to say he does not appreciate the threatening language, spelling out the nasty comments, and non payment of part of his salary.

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grants1000 · 04/08/2013 22:50

Thanks everyone, can't think straight and upset & totally pissed off

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ExitPursuedByABear · 04/08/2013 22:52

Your poor dh. And you. I think he needs to stand up to him. What's the worst that can happen?

garlicagain · 04/08/2013 22:57

Really? It's a brand-new job, it's a startup, the guy's a wanker and he hasn't paid DH for his services. I recommend a firm email (or text, if you can't email) from DH, telling boss not to call while you're on holiday, that threats to his life (quote noose/neck remark and any similar) are illegal and boss is in breach of contract. Say you will discuss on return, at which time you expect to be paid for work already done, and if discussion unsatisfactory you will inform police of threats & pursue unpaid wage/salary/fee. Keep the voicemails.

As it sounds as if DH is going to be stressing anyway, I suggest he use the rest of his holiday to find other work. Good luck.

TimeofChange · 06/08/2013 19:41

I agree with garlic: Your DH needs a new job / contract asap.

Is your DH an employee or contractor?

I would consider going home now early to find a new job.
The boss will not improve.

Your lives will improve if you get him out of your lives.

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