Not coping with promotion - what do I do?

[BoobyMoon]

I currently work in retail and recently got a promotion to a supervisory level job in a larger store. I am finding this new role incredibly stressful and as a result not sleeping well and suffering from anxiety. To make matters worse I have also moved from part-time to full time and I'm struggling to juggle this with family life.
We really needed the cash boost this promotion has given me so I'm feeling a bit trapped in this role now. The thought of feeling this level of anxiety forever is soul destroying though!

My real question is - would it be selfish to take a less stressful job with less money to make my life easier?? I feel fairly ridiculous finding this job so hard as I have had a much more demanding job before in a different industry (with about triple the money) before getting made redundant a few years ago - retail was my only option at that time....

Speak to your manager and see if there is any training or mentoring available to you, stepping up to a supervisory role can be very stressful as it is totally different to simply turning up at work each day.
Could you speak to your GP also for some help with relaxation and coping with stress?
It is hard now, but look for help, try to stick with it because if you can get it all to fall in to place you'll feel super proud of your achievement.
God luck with it all.

Yes, I am having a meeting with my manager this week - I want to be honest with her about my worries but don't want to let her know the full extent as I think that might do me more harm than good. I will have to try really hard not to burst into tearrs in front of her....
You are right about how I'll feel if I get through this - getting the job was a confidence boost but I feel that confidence has gone now and I feel totally inadequate. More training may help, in fact ANY training would be good as I've not had much. I'm just exhausted - its a physically demanding job and with lack of sleep this is so hard.

Ocht, I think I might just need a wee kick up the arse.....

I hope your meeting goes well, and you get to discuss everything you need. Also that you start sleeping better, as that should help you be a bit more clear headed and less emotional.

I hope your meeting went well. Don't underestimate how horribly stressful changing roles can be. It's one thing to go from one entry level role to another; quite another to move at or to a higher level. I experienced terrible anxiety when I moved jobs; I was performance managed following a stupid mistake and ended up having counselling. A friend developed ibs after moving from one firm to another to do essentially the same role. I've spoken to lots of people who have experienced similar. Moving from part time to full time and juggling work and family must make it really really hard.
My advice would be do whatever you need to do to stick with it. It will get easier. They obviously think you can do the job and you must have all the right qualifications and experience. Also it's not in anyone's interests for you to fail so hopefully your boss will get behind you.

I think you need to give yourself anything up to a year to feel on top of things, you will take it in your stride in time and if it is still making you unhappy then it is wrong for you however much the pay is. Give yourself a chance before throwing the towel in though and good luck with the meeting. Maybe there is some help or training available for you.

I think you're right to not want to reveal full extent to your Manager - never a good idea no matter how supportive they are.
As you've done something more stressful successfully before, is this a case of being over-whelmed with too many changes at once? New, store, going full time, promotion and i'm guessing you had less 'juggling' to do in your earlier job?
Could you take some time out at the weekend to objectively think through the stress at work. Why you get stressed, if it is lack of a skills/experience then what training you need. If it's organising your time, then ideas on how to do that, daily check lists with time. If it is 'juggling' stress, then how can you organise your family's time and yours. Weekly and monthly time tables can be helpful.
Breaking down the stress is likely to empower you and when you speak to your manager you can ask for specific things and solutions...rather than problems. He/She is likely to be more supportive and less worried about you/your store.
Goodluck, you've done it before give yourself sometime you'd be fine.