Ignored @ work

[seren11]

Does this happen to anyone else? I started a new job recently, with another new colleague. We've been meeting new people in the organisation. Time after time, I find that I'm pretty much ignored - that whoever we're seeing looks at/speaks directly and only to the other new colleague. Once I wasn't spoken to at all ... Our roles are similar, so it's not a decision along those lines. I'm cheery, look engaged, take an interest and ask questions. I've tried finding fault with myself (it would be easier) but honestly, on this score, I can't.

My mum would have said that it's their problem but it's happening quite a bit and I do find it increasingly hurtful. It's not difficult to treat the two people in front of you equally.

What do other people do - any strategies or thoughts? Or should I shrug it off? Thanks.

Are you both the same gender? Also, try not to let it get to you too much as it can become a self fulfilling thing.
I have been in meetings where I've raised something or given an suggestion with no response. Then a few mins later someone else raises it and gets a well done!

My approach is, stay neutral, don't get wound up and try to introduce what you are saying by complimenting the other person. Eg- when you say that new staff can use the general area for lunch, that's great thank you so much for letting me know. I'll have to make sure I come along, thanks for the tip etc etc

Have you asked anyone who you work with what their thoughts are? We often operate differently at work than at home. It's probably body language or something very subtle that it would be difficult to figure out yourself. Or the other new person may just be particularly engaging so one option is to accept that's the way it is in that particular environment and you'll have more opportunity to shine when you're not with them or by e mail, phone etc. Don't try to 'compete' if this is not your natural style, just try to make the most of what your natural style is.