Feel in a rut!

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Just gone back to work ft after mat leave. I enjoy my job and everyone has been really sweet since I got back, but things have changed a lot and a lot of people have left. This is due to changes in upper management and personal issues (eg boss left due to having to,sack colleagues shed literally just brought on and also having a baby die at 25 weeks pg). I work from home mainly spit suits as I have 3 small children not at school yet.

It has been my ambition to work in Switzerland and a good job has come up. I've made noises to recruitment consultant I'd be interested but as you can imagine a big move due to ageing parents, dh has a job but funding only for another year and I'm the main breadwinner and children who are relatively settled at nursery/ preschool. I'd love to try living there for a few years but I worry about the parents who have talked about moving closer but have not done so despite talking about it for the past 10 years. My mum is a very negative person so it can be draining being around her.

I know I might notgetnthe job but should I go for it? I feel kids would have the opportunity to be bilingual (plus I can brush up on my French), have access to winter sports (we love skiing), will manage to develop my career portfolio and may just have slightly better summers (live in Scotland). Dh is happy for me to see where it takes us but did warn we wouldn't have the family network close by. I feel in such a rut work wise tho.... And am feeling so jealous seeing other friends living and working abroad. Just worried it might not be as great as it seems on paper.... Any advice or experience of this??

Ps I'm 42!

From the children's point of view this is the time to do it, as they adapt to change very well, it does get harder to uproot them as they get older.

I am one of these people that always tends to "go for it" as if you have always had a dream/aspiration and you don't try it when you have the opportunity, then you will regret it later on and will always wonder "what if".

If your DH is happy and the pay is good, I would go for it.

As far as parents are concerned and the network thing, well we are in that boat and it is very difficult but you just get used to it. It sounds selfish but as it is in Europe so relatively easy to hop on a plane, I wouldn't let that put me off.

Good luck with your decision - exciting times!

It sounds like you should go for it and if you´re worried about it not being as good as it seems on paper, if you´re offered the job, ask lots and lots of questions about the role. As for your parents, it is hard living abroad visiting parents. But if they´re not that near otherwise then it may not make a big difference. I suppose it depends how old they are. If they are likely to need major care within the next five years, I would think twice about it - but if it´s going to be another 15 years, then it sounds like you might be back in the UK by then.
I´d go for it!

Mum is not great with rheumatoid arthritis and they were talking about moving nearer but they won't put their house on the market to test the water. Dad gets a bit fed up as I said, mum is not v positive and a bit toxic. They are helping out once a week with the kids. Mum is likely to be in a wheelchair within the next 5 years but tbh has not done much to help herself (ie refuses to take medication, have physio etc. ). Can be v draining.....relations with son and dil are strained because my mother causes q a lot of trouble through what she says! So,as you can tell, makes it difficult to know what to do. But I don't want to have any regrets I didn't go for,it and my advice to friends etc is always that you can't live your life through your parents. Btw - mum does not like flying so if we went, not sure how often wed see them even tho only 2 hours flight away!