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Passice Aggressive Bullying

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nomoreplease · 25/02/2013 15:33

Has anyone ever experienced this.

I have got to the stage where I am frightened to speak to a lady at work for fear of her being aggressive - she doesn't do it in an open manner - just makes weird cutting remarks and is forever on the deffensive to the point that you can say something incouous (sp?) which she will take offence at.

It's really hard to describe but I am actually nervous around her for fear of upsetting her about the slightest thing. Iam normally friendly, smiley, chatty and exuberant but am going to have to completely change my manner if we are to ever work together as I seem to upset her without even trying whilst she makes barbed remarks to me - which she is now saying I am taking in the wrong way.

She sort of outed herself by her attitude to a member of our management team and I decided to actually say something about how she is with me to the person who noticed her rudeness and they agree with me says they think she is passive aggressive.

I just don't think I can carry on walking around on egg shells for fear of upsetting her or being snapped at and am starting to feel ill about even being near her.

God I sound like a mad person don't I.

I am afraid to go into too much detail as everything came to a head today and would be scared for her to read anything on here and then bring it up at work.

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BlackSwan · 25/02/2013 21:37

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kiwimumof2boys · 26/02/2013 09:13

Oh I hate hate HATE people like this - I have worked with a couple - and when i talked to a supervisor was just told 'oh shes just a bit gruff in her manner' and it was implied I was being sensitive (this was years ago when I was in my first job). Stupid b!tch then told supervisor she was 'only joking' and 'that was her way'. Looking back it was a cop out from management. Ah well.
I would suggest saying 'pardon?' and asking her to repeat something . .. also 'what is the issue?' if shes being really nasty. Act confident (even if you are walking on eggshells !)
Sorry not much help, but unfortunately there are a lot of people like that around.
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