DH thinks jobs like this exist - can we tell him the reality?

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DH thinks I can esily get a job that fits the following criteria:-

School hours eg: 9.15 - 3.00 (so I can always pick up the children)
OR
3 days a week 9-5.15 (giving me enough time to drop & pick up children from before & after school club because this job apparently will be local)
AND
That will be flexible for me and me only to work at home the days they are ill becuase he won't be able to ever.
AND
That is still gives me enough time to be responsible for all the housework, shopping and cooking because he won't have the time.

I work from home now because it fits in with school hours and his job, he's away a lot, no fixed times of being in, could have a meeting in London one day, Glasgow the next, may stay over may come home etc etc. His point is that I don't earn much and I should and could earn more, my home business is just a "won't come to much" and I should get a proper job. My "won't come to much" is in it's infancy and just getting going.

So tell me how it is.

Thanks

To add, I do the lion's share of household chores as dh works 50+ hours. He helps where he can.

I have seen jobs like that.

Usually for a unicorn trainer, magic wand polisher, tree-money-harvester....

I don't think it's reasonable to dismiss job opportunities on the grounds that your child may occasionally be ill. This is a problem all working parents have to negotiate (unless there are long term health issues, naturally).

So what are you going to do in school holidays if you get this mythical job then?

I do have a job that fits in around school hours BUT I was there full time fir years before mat leave and then negotiated shorter hours on my return, then was lucky to be able to do that again once dc at school

You rarely walk into jobs like this because people like me aren't going to give them up :)

You can send them to club in the holidays like 1000s of parents.I think its good for them as they have time with their friends,trips all over the place etc.

Did he see the thread about 1700 applicants for 9 jobs at Costa the other day?

Because I would imagine the job he wants you to get would be even more competitive!

(Not saying you wouldn't get it however!)

'care,childcare,cleaning,private sector admin etc'

Part time private sector admin with flex hours and decent pay - rare as hen's teeth. Just because most people could do most admin jobs while half asleep doesn't mean those jobs are available. Those who have them hold onto them.

Childcare - pay is crap. Skills are non transferable. No promotions ever.
Cleaning - pay is crap. Skills are non transferable. No promotion ever.
Care - pay is crap. Skills are non transferable. Promotion to admin possible but rarely on a part time basis with flexibility and usually some experience in admin or education plus experience needed.

Childcare, cleaning and care are dead end jobs.

I don't think this man is interested in his wife doing a job just for the sake of the very little money she could possibly hope to make. He has notions about himself and I think this extends to what his wife should be spending her time at.

Her real problem is that he thinks it's ok to insult her by claiming he is above what she does.

Tell him you're off to work as an escort or a stripper - you make a bit of money - hours are flexible and I'm sure he wouldn't mind at all.......

ByTheWay1 - escort/stripper - given the constraint on hours this means the lunchtime trade. How does this work if there is a call from school to pick up a poorly child? 'I'll be along in a minute when I have finished Mr Bates and put my clothes back on'

I imagine the school secretary detonating at the stress of trying to find the right form for this!

I would disagree that care is a "dead end job"
I am in care, the pay is not great but significantly more than nmw
There are plenty options for moving forward in terms of promotions/ gaining skills and qualifications etc

Thing is, Chesty, it will cost the OP to use breakfast club and after school club and as has been noted, these school hours jobs don't tend to pay well, so all that eats into the projected earnings - and given that the husband has said he expects her to earn more this way, I just don't see that happening. I'm not demeaning these jobs myself; I just think the husband has an impossible ideal job in mind.

Plus, what mathanxiety said about him thinking he's above the housework, scut work etc.

They all have benefits though mathanxiety childcare is low paid but the good thing about it ia you can look after your children at same time so its money for what your doing anyway.

There are definitely decent jobs in care as I have friends in that sector if you get with the nhs its great.Cleaning you can get decent pay really for what it is and they are all options if op needed work.

Childcare where you look after your own children at the same time (I assume you mean childminding) tends to make taking on the entirety of the housework tricky, plus there's some upfront investment in training etc.

No doctrine I meant nursery or school club,but yeah childminding is also an option.

If OP worked in a nursery 8am-6pm, unless it was on the site with the after school club, she'd be late for pick up. She'd also need to take qualifications.

If she worked in an ASC, unless it was her kids' ASC, same problem.

As a line manager I am certainly not 'not fussed' if a PT member of staff can't come in because of a child's ill health. The work has to be done, is sometimes time-critical and rescheduling can be a real PITA. For example you need to be sure a desk is available. Of course I try to be as accomodating as possible and if a person can't come in they can't come in and it isn't their fault but it does cause issues.

Stephcat- how have you found doing the avon through the recession? I would quite like to do that on top of my job.

I work at a nursery with one of my children attending same place,and I have another child at breakfast and afterschool club so maybe between the 2 childcare settings thats a lot of potential customers.Hmm will have a think could be a good idea for extra money toward my holiday

Will pm you

sorry, its my first time on here - how do you pm me? does it go via mumsnet? or do you need my email address? sorry just not sure how it works yet

Erm it says sent.you go to the inbox if your on your mobile its at top of screen?