Trouble with nursery, what should I do now?

[vicimelly]

My DD has been going to nursery for about 4 months now, she really enjoys it and gets excited about going. However when I got her home yesterday she was really withdrawn and quiet, and when I took off her coat she had two really bad bite marks on her arms.
I was furious as I was sure that if anything happens to her while she's there, they have to inform me of it when I pick her up, which they didn't.
I called the nursery and spoke to the manager, she said she would speak to the staff who were in her room this morning about it.
When I called back this morning she said that she had spoken to them, and they hadn't informed me of it because they didn't know it had happened!!
My DD was in a room with 7 other children and there were two members of staff there,I am seriously concerned that this could have happened twice and go unnoticed by the staff, where were they!?!? Also she was wearing a short sleeved top and the marks were very visible, how could something like that go completely unnoticed!?
I have now taken her out of the nursery as I no longer have faith in the care she is getting there, however I am still concerned about it, it does seem to me that the only way this could have happened is if the children were not being properly supervised, which has left me worrying about the other children there!
Should I report this, and if so who do I report it to?

It's the labelling of a pre-school child as 'sneaky' which I object to. Their behaviour may possibly be described as 'sneaky', although I still find this an inappropriate word to be used for such a young child, but not the child itself. In the same way as a child's behaviour could be called 'naughty' without labelling the child as 'naughty'.

Yes I agree goosey. I don't like that word applied to pre-school children. Most children develop theory of mind (yawn) at about age 4-5. Until then they are completely unable to understand that the world does not revolve aroud them. Once they realise that other children/adults have their own thoughts- with the development of theory of mind- they begin to develop empathy and uderstand how to hide what they are doing etc and as they get older you may certainly see sneaky behaviour. A younger child may learn to do it when not watched, but I would say they were showing inapporpriate behaviour really rather than they were sneaky.

I watch my ds1 like a hawk- and I now recognise his "I'm going to pich someone" face, he still often manages it though- but he doesn't wait for me not to watch - he's just fast. Likewise I spoke to nursery about the pinching and asked whether it would have made any difference if his nursery one to one hours hadn't been cut (especially as he had only got his hands on adults at school whre he still had full time one to one) and they said no it wouldn't have made any difference (and usually they are the first to take the opportunity to complain to the LEA and his manager is furious that his hours have been cut).

When I was going through the phase of signing the incident book 3 times on every trip to nursery I dreaded being stopped by a parent. Wanted to go in with my face covered. MInd you ds2 was ebing sropped off with big scratch marks down is face as well. Nursery said that the parents had so far been understanding and to send them into them if there was any trouble and they would put them straight.

A couple of times they said he had pinched but it hadn't marked so they hadn't informed the parents unless they thoguht the child would tell them.