Hi everyone,
My little girl is 7 months tomorrow and has been going to a childminders for 3 days a week, 9.45 hours a day. She has been going for 4 weeks now and had her settling in week prior to this, however she is just so unhappy.
She cries at the childminders anytime she is put down to play and is nervous and anxious around other people on my days off, which she was not before. By a Sunday I just about have her happy again and then on a Monday morning she is back to the childminders and she is sad all over again.
I have tried everything I can think of: we have a picture of the childminder, she has pics of us and a voice recording (which apparently calms her a little) she takes the top I have worn the day before, she takes her favourite toys and teddies to sleep with and I always ensure I pass her over quickly and confidently, saying goodbye and that I will be back later.
She is usually such a happy little girl and it it killing me that she has spent nearly 30 hours a week in tears for the last month. We had her weighed last week and she had only put on 4oz in a month, which the health visitor said was a big concern as she is only a little dot anyway.
I am hating work and can't wait to leave but even if I hand my notice in now I can't leave until Christmas. I feel that I need someone to look into a crystal ball and tell me a) this will all be fine within the next few weeks or B) this isn't going to resolve itself anytime soon, in which case I will need to have serious thinks.
The childminder is lovely and has done everything she can but with no joy ~ I just don't know what to do and have spent most of September in tears.
Any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated!! x