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Anyone else still struggling a few months after going back to work?

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Littleredtree · 07/09/2012 22:25

I went back to work in April at 4 days a week when DD was 11 months, and I just haven't got back into the swing of things. I manage a team of 10, and while I'm the sort of person that does fret about how good I am at my job (and probably always will be, just wired that way), before mat leave I was pretty confident that I was good/ok at what I did. Now I feel as though I am barely holding it together, that my team and colleagues preferred my maternity cover person to me, and I am both bored and stressed by my job, which is a nasty combination!

Most of my friends have got back into things by now, so I was wondering if there was anyone else out there who took time to get to grips with work again? And any tips? Did you keep grinding it out and did it get better? Or is it better to cutyour losses and think about doing something new? We're not in a position for me to drop hours or salary much but I need to start thinking about what else I could do in a perfect world. i'm torn whether to hang on in there, because it's convenient, well paid, generally with good people, and keeps me in work in a difficult job market, but it is causing a bit of emotional turmoil. Looking for inspiration please...

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mrsmplus3 · 17/09/2012 20:48

Thanks everyone. Funnily enough, I'm feeling better- still tired and feel a cold coming on but I just feel better, mentally. Maybe it was sharing on here, and you all sharing too, it does help to know that there are alot of us out there, doing what we need to do for our families. I had a lovely Sunday pottering about the house, cleaning and cooking while the kids (thankfully) were happy amusing themselves and running in and out the house playing with their friends. Today at work was fine too. And to top it off I managed the gym there. I had some energy left to do it and I just really felt like it so I went, and it was great.
In bed now chilling.
Thanks again.
How are you all?
Ps someone said something about bawling your eyes out in the bath. I honestly don't see anything wrong with that. Having a good cry is a great release. I often feel great after a good cry! As long as the kids don't hear, that would be pretty confusing for them. Take care everyone x

AnotherMuesliPleaseBarman · 20/09/2012 20:30

Thank you, nextphase, for redirecting me over here! I was wittering on about my situation in another thread and have found reading about others' experiences here reassuring. Thank goodness I am not alone! I might return and witter some more yet Grin but for the time being, I'm going to give myself a break (DH away tonight, DCs in bed) and have a curry followed by an early night as a treat to myself.

Littleredtree · 20/09/2012 22:41

Hey Muesli... hope you enjoyed the curry! And hope you manage to find time to witter... I'm finding reading other people's experiences so interesting (perhaps I need a hobby?!) and helpful. I feel calmer knowing it's not just me, and it's actually helped at work - people have said that I seem to be buzzing and into things. It's not quite the case, but nice to present a positive front anyway...

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