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Am I being bullied or being over sensitive??? sorry long post, steaming off a bit!!

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lodo · 30/08/2012 14:30

I am so incredibly upset at the moment. Basically I'm about to go off on my 3rd maternity leave and things have got so bad at work that I don't think I can return (and I would like to).

Everything was fine when I came back from mat leave no 2 in November 2011 until i got pregnant again and all my work dried up (I am client facing so some of this is understandable since they don't wish me to build a relationship then bugger off in a few months time). My team leader has been completely unsupportive (she is the same level of me, same experience, but company policy is to appoint a team leader who may well end up leading their peers - weird, I know) and has got progressively worse. She has told me that the fact I have little work is my own fault (it is up to her to allocate work) and that senior people in the office have no faith in my quality of my work. I have defended myself about this and I have stated I disagree with her comments. I even got external positive feedback from the one client I am actively involved. I also got questions from her about if I was planning to return from maternity leave (can she ask me this??) and how long would I take off if I did return.

She is refusing to authorise my holiday prior to mat leave - I am due to finish TODAY (I am 38 weeks pregnant) and want take 2 weeks holiday (to help use it up) prior to starting mat leave. (She has gone to HR to find out my entitlement since my last mat leave, etc. etc. I think she think I'm doing something naughty and doesn't understand that you accrue bH over mat leave hence the amount of leave I have accumulated but I assure you everything is above board).

But the thing that has really upsetting me is about her comments about my performance. I have completed a form to summarise my own performance to-date to help with the year end performance review (not due until November). I was happy to do this and included the +ve client feedback (why not?). She has said that she can't support my form as it stands since it doesn't reflect the fact that I'm basically crap (my words, not hers, but that's the gist). I've refused to change it (and I'm not exactly singing my own praises on this bloody form, it is extremely bland, especially given I've done little all year). I have just received an e-mail from her about how senior people have no faith in my performance, the fact that I have little work is my own fault and that she will have to re-consider me working from home one day a week when I return from work (she wasn't involved in this decision and there are other people within the office who work from home).

I feel bullied, but maybe I'm just being sensitive what with my pregnancy, etc, also not sure if some of this is my own fault, but I simply feel that the whole situation is so sour that I can't possibly return.

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conorsrockers · 30/08/2012 14:37

So you've been back for less than a year and going on maternity leave again? Does she have kids? When did you have the 1st mat leave? Was it the same company? How long do you take? Was she there then?
Of course, she sounds like a complete bitch - but what is the bigger picture? Do you spend most of you time having babies or working????
That is a sincere question - I had 3 in 5 years and have always worked f/t - so not judging Smile.

TheMonster · 30/08/2012 14:38

Sounds unpleasant and I feel for you. Maternity leaves so close together do get people's backs up though.

BranchingOut · 30/08/2012 14:40

If you are due to finish today I would just nod, smile and get through it. Hopefully HR will send her back with changed ideas.

Email a copy of the performance review to your next manager up, saying that you have written this to contribute to the process. I don't think they could do much in terms of a negative review while you are on mat leave.

Wait it out while you are on mat leave. Maybe things will have changed by the time you go back.

lodo · 30/08/2012 19:42

thanks for the comments.

conorsrocks - no she does not have any kids and yes i've been either pregnant or on maternity leave since 2008, all with the same company (first baby at start of 2009, a year off, came back to work for 10 months then had second baby, came back after another year in November 2011, found out I was (happily) pregnant again in March 2012 so leaving today for another year...

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nextphase · 30/08/2012 20:16

Have you got any proof of your satisfied clients? Any e-mail or feed back forms where they have stated the positive comments you have put on your performance?

Agree with sending to the next level of management - along with her message about your poor performance, and anything you've got from your clients which is positive.

Hope it all resolves it self - I'm struggling with lack of work after 2 years Mat in the past 3.5 years, and a colleague is in the middle of a grievance following her treatment on return from ML.

She might not be there in a year when you want to return -don't burn any bridges yet.

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