Giving it all up!

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Been ttc for a year and already have 2 dc (13 & 3) have realised ttc & working as nurse is making me miserable! Have decided I'm going back on the pill & handing my notice in and going to concentrate on the 2 lovely dc I'm lucky to have eeek hope this works out

Go for it and good luck!

Sounds like a good plan - hope it all works out for you!

Dh not really being supportive & saying I can't just jack job in I so so want to!! am I just being fanciful and maybe need to get in the real world? I hate having mortgage, responsibilities

Work out the numbers and see if you can afford it, my DH wasn't convinced about me being a SAHM but I worked out all the finances for him (included everything like fuel for me travelling to work, lunches etc) and proved it was financially viable. Best decision of my life, and DH agrees - sounds like a brilliant decision you've made :)

Can you reduce hours instead just to keep your hand in?

Hi bonhomiee I did reduce hours and now work 22 hours which I'm not sure if I could reduce again but could speak to my line manager and see as there is another woman in my work who does 2 days and I'm currently doing 3. The only thing is my mil gas ds one day and the only day she can do is wednesday and know this would be the day I'd have to give up at work so would have to give up only day I don't pay any childcare. rockchick well done for making the move and so glad it's worked out, I'm very jealous! Will try and number chrunch and see if I can make a good argument to dh, he thinks I'm just being selfish as he is working 7 days a week atm to keep us afloat! Do you get income support or just survive on dh's wage?

Your husband is working 7 days a week to keep you afloat and you're planning to give up work?!

Um, yes, you are selfish.

Sorry, I can see how giving up work may be attractive, but if your DH is working 7 days a week to keep you all afloat, then I think you are being selfish.
If working and ttc is too much, maybe it is the ttc bit at needs to be put on hold for a while.

Yes, I can see how that would sound really selfish puts self on naughty step to have a think about it It's just that I'm sick of my work, miss my kids and love being at home so had thought of giving up nursing to do childminding. We thought though that if we were going to have another then I should stay where I am to get mat leave then following that do childminding. We've been ttc for best part of a year and I'm so fed up with work so not sure what to do! Don't know whether to stop ttc and stay where I am, stop ttc and apply for childminding, still ttc and then think childminding? Really confused and fed up

Do u work on acute ward//A&E and if so could you change to OPD work for example?

We get by on DH's wage with a tiny amount of tax credits. I couldn't have done it if DH would have had to work 7 days a week, I would have felt too guilty and couldn't have got him to do any of the housework :)

If you were childminding you would still be contributing financially, and would probably be working more than your current 22 hours, would that be what you really wanted? I can't imagine giving up work and then not being able to focus all my attention on my own children, but at least if you're earning then DH would surely be happier?

As an aside, if you're childminding and got pregnant I'm sure you could apply for maternity allowance?

Hi bonhomiee, nope work in child & adolescent mental health. Today at work got punched, kicked, spat at & had to restrain a child while my colleagues were restraining another 2, fed up of it. On a plus note its weekdays & hours that suit. Wish i'd never chosen nursing.
Rockchick1984, not sure if I really know what to expect from childminding but 3 days out of the week I don't see my ds so if I was childminding altho I'd have to look after other kids I'd also be there all day for mine! Mb this is a daft idea but just not sure what to do. My dh really likes the childminding idea.