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Retail? Or working in family business??? Help!!!

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Movingforward123 · 08/08/2012 11:05

I was working in my dads business but I felt very stressed out because he basically put a lot of responsibility on me and called me at all hours and kept asking me to work on my days off! I am also trying to study so I left because I felt I needed head space!

So I have been unemployed for about a month!

I decided I would get a job that is less stressful for me and didn't care about the wage! As I will get tax credits and it would only be until I was finished my studying and then I could get a better job!

So I did a trail in a cocktail bar where I worked till 4 am and a trial in a pub till 11.30 and decided bar work isn't for me.

I've had a few retail interviews lined up, one yesterday said they could give me 2 set days per week then said they would need me to be flexible! I've got two more today but if I have to be flexible childcare will be a problem.

I'm a single mum and will have to ask my mum all the time to have dd! I feel guilty for leaving dd to work when I know I could work for my dad 2 days per week but school hours only and get the same amount of money as working two full days! So will have more time with dd and won't have to ask my mum to help out as I prefer to be independent!

I left my job before the one with my dad as I felt stressed out too. But it was a sales job with targets etc so I found it difficult to leave it at work as I need to meet certain targets! Now I'm starting to feel like I'm not coping well in any job and don't know what to do for the best as I really want to get work life balance right for me and dd! Also I need to do my studying which I havnt bothered with atall!

Sorry it's so long I just feel lost and confused as I have always been successful in my careers before which have always been sales, target driven and high pressured but now I can't cope with that and always feel torn!

Any advice welcome!

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Movingforward123 · 08/08/2012 19:53

bump Smile

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CarpeJugulum · 08/08/2012 19:59

Have you actually spoken directly to your DF about this? What has he said about phoning you out of hours?

Movingforward123 · 08/08/2012 20:20

When I was working with him I had spoke to him about it and told him not to call me all the time. He did try not to call but every single day there seemed to be an emergency and he would always call me with one drama or another. he also did the same thing to my brither and sister when they worked there and they both left. Its just how he is Sad

Today I had two interviews one for the white stuff shop which seemed ok and would be able to give me fixed days.

And one in a hair suppliers place. So a bit dull BUT the manager is lovely and really wants to give me the job as she thinks my personality will bring the atmosphere of the shop up. She wanted me to work 1-6 pm, so I told her its not suitable and now she will let me do the hours etc I want so 16 split over 3 days school hours only Smile. I'm thinking I will go for this one.

I really dont want to feel stressed out again with my dad.

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CarpeJugulum · 08/08/2012 21:06

Sounds a reasonable option - well done you Smile

Some business owners can't switch off so separating home and work seems sensible!

Good luck!

Movingforward123 · 08/08/2012 21:15

My dad really cant switch off and also he makes the problem everyones problem.

He has asked me a few times to come back to help him out, but i know how much pressure he can put on me and I just dont want it.

And it makes me feel really rubbish that I seem unable to handle a bit of pressure. But I am juggling so many things right now its just not easy.

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