Anyone here torn between home and career??

[Kizza2]

Hi there, i was on maternity for 9 months and i hated it, i hated being home all day with the baby and couldnt wait to go back.

Anyone here a SAHM? How do you manage?

I was so bored, i missed my job. I am now pregnant with number 2 and although i love my son and i will love this child- i cant imagine a life where i didnt have my career.

Anyone in the same boat? anyone always racked with guilt every morning when they drop their kids off at nursery?

Why racked with guilt? I didn't enjou my maternity leave one bit, and I found that when I went back to work part time, I was much more patient / interactive with my.dd. It helps that she loves nursery, but I moat definitely am a better, happier parent by working part time.

If it works for for you and your family, then whatever works for you is fine.

gosh thanks iliketea...thought i was going to get ambushed by SAHMs and ppl like my in laws who think a womans place in at home with the kids.

I suppose society and culture has expectations, one HAS to enjoy motherhood, one HAS to make sacrifices for their children. It is inconcievable why a woman wouldnt want to pack it all in and stay at home all day....how can a woman who works possibly me a good mother??

I do find when i work, i enjoy the time with my DS a lot more and we have a lot of quality time together, he too loves nursery....but there is always guilt, think that comes with being a mother, the guilt that there is always something more u could be doing.

I'm a SAHM. and I think you'll be happy with whatever works for you. I know plenty of mums who love the balance of working part time and still getting to spend time with their DCs.

With DD1 I was 8 months into my maternity leave a decided I didn't want to leave her and would miss her terribly if I had gone back. So I took a 5 year career break (I'm lucky that my employer offers it). When I was pregnant with DD2, I took an additional year. Will have to go back in just over four years time and am already dreading it!

I love being a SAHM and spending time with my DDs. We go to mum and toddler groups, have playdates with other mums and toddlers, go to the playground/park/river, do crafts at home, drawing, imaginative play, reading etc.