My husband has always worked full time since we have met, i have worked part time since having the children which are now 15,9,8,5 years old. He has started to drop hints that i should work more. I think what he would ideally like is that we both work the same amount of hours. probably 28 hours each.
At present he works 35 and i work 21. I am reluctant to do so, partly because i work shifts as does my husband. i like to be able to put the kids to bed and read them books, and play the odd game with them. Despite my husband agreeing with me that it is important to read books, and playing cards is good for their maths. He more often than not when i am working late and he puts them to bed he takes the easy option and lets them stay watching the T.V and then they go off to bed. He also tends to watch films a lot of the day, and chill out. Which is fine, but it would be nice if that curtain rail that has been down for a few months now could be put up at some point this year.
I also am reluctant to work more as i do more cleaning and sorting out in the house and if i work more, which i have done when he had not got a job, i felt like i was run raggid. i was working full time and doing all the cleaning and stuff. Although if he is home then he always cooks (doesnt do the tidying up after).
When i cook, i do and then i do the tidying up. He also finds being at home boring and tends to spend more money which we havent got. I find things to do wether it be helping my mum, cleaning the house, making stuff for friends who are pregnant etc. I manage not to spend money.
I dont know if i am being unreasonable. or not? I want to get things right in my head before i have to address this subject with him. Has anyone got some advice to offer or even just opinions. Am i being unreasonable? Should i go back to work more! I was planning to increase my hours once my youngest child got to about 10. Should he work less? Should it be 50/50? if that is the case then i would want the money to be 50/50 which it certainly is not at the moment. please help!
thanks