being forced to resign?

[Boboli]

Hi -
I returned from mat leave in March to a 3 day a week role which I believed to be home based with some travel around the county to different sites. The role has since seemed to evolve with national travel and regular visits to the City.

I raised some concerns with my manager re long days away, nights away with 2 very small children which was causing me an amount of stress. I'd also been asked to move to 4 days to take on some extra responsibility for a time to cover a vacancy but soon found that this and the travelling was too much and asked to be moved back down to 3 days within a month.

When I raised again about the travelling, the result was a meeting with 2 managers and me telling me this is the role, I couldn't expect special treatment etc. The conversation was actually quite bullying in tone and words to the effect of 'you've let us down quite honestly' were used (in relation to reverting to the 4 to 3 days).

I'm a good performer, have given my all since my return and have plenty of evidence to prove this. This conversation was quite out of the blue and has left me feeling completely demotivated and even more stressed out. They want me to go away and think about what I want to do. I'm not really sure what that means - I asked if they were talking about me resigning but didn't get a straight answer. I feel that I want to leave but I feel that I'm being forced out.

Any advice out there?

in you're post you talk about 'believing' the role to be...

what does it actually say in your contract T&Cs

what schedule did you work prior to mat leave?

when you went to 4 days was this a contractual change/overtime/temp change to your T&Cs?

sorry for all the questions but it will help with replies

if you ever get to the stage where you consider leaving and pursuing a claim for constructive dismissal then you need to evidence that you have followed internal process. In this case that would include family friendly working requests and grievance process

It's a bit complicated - we'd just gone through a restructure before I went on mat leave. I was successful in a pooled selection for a 3 day a week role covering sites in the county. This was positioned as a home based role with travel to these sites. Before I'd been doing a 4 day a week role based at a site very near home but no flex working request as the restructure sorted that out.

When I went to 4 days recently, this was a contractual changes but I agreed that we'd review after 2 months - it was never a permanent move.

I thought you didn't need to follow a grievance process anymore?

it's a grey area about the grievance but always best to follow that route

the contractual change to 4 days -was it documented that it would be reviewed after 2 months?

you say you went back to 3 days earlier than the 2 months anyway, was this due to them asking you for additional travel to that already laid out in your job spec?

Hi - thanks for your response

yes it was documented to review in 2 months - in an email to my manager.

Yes the reason for going back was that I couldn't balance home and work - it's quite a commute to the city/plus additional travel so things weren't working for me.