I know this subject can incite strong opinions - but I'd really love some balanced advice.
I'm totally torn. I am a SAHM with a DS of almost two years old who goes to nursery twice a week. He's very active and sociable and after a tearful start, is now loving nursery.
I took redundancy after maternity leave so, apart from doing a bit from home, haven't worked. We've been very financially comfortable as my redundancy was large, but it's running out and we're about to buy a house.
Now, out of the blue, I've been headhunted for the most fabulous well-paid job. I had no intention of going back to work full-time (this is unnegotiable five days a week), but I am sorely tempted to take it. It would take me just 20 minutes to get to work, and they've agreed I can work 9 to 5 instead of 10 to 6 (which is normal in my industry).
If I take it, we will be very comfortable and able to afford private school (as far as I'm concerned a necessity in the part of south London we live in). If I don't take it, we will be a bit skint (though I can attempt to get a bit more work from home) and will need to eventually move to an area where the state schools are better.
I just feel so guilty about my DS going to nursery five days a week. I know we can just about get by without my working. But he wouldn't be able to go to nursery at all, and we wouldn't have much money to do fun things. Does that matter? At least we'd be together? I worship the ground he walks on, but I must say I find it hard thinking of entertaining him all day every day.
It feels like such a life-changing decision. Work full-time. Or be a SAHM? I was also planning on trying for a second this month - and would have to put that off for a few months.
Any advice, similar experiences - would be much appreciated!