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Those with three kids or more - advice on increasing work days & juggling it all please?

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JumpingJellyfish · 11/06/2012 17:14

I have 3DC, aged 7, nearly 5 and 2. I have been working part-time pretty much constantly since DC3 was 6 months old, and have gradually increased from 1.5 days a week to 3 days a week spread as 2 full days and 2 mornings. This has worked fairly well and although always a juggling act is just about manageable (I'm self employed currently- benefits in some ways but no annual leave/sick pay sucks! esp when deadlines loom and kids get sick...)

I have been offered my first longer-term contract since DC3 was born, but it will be 4 days a week. I could in theory work 3 full days and 2 mornings, or else 4 full days. My childminder would prefer the latter as she tries to keep fridays free/off work. I am a bit nervous about how well we'll manage this. I do the bulk of school/nursery etc. runs as my DH works far away so out long hours, DS has dyslexia so needs lots of help with homeworks and DD1 has cystic fibrosis so has quite a hectic evening regime of nebulisers and physio - and of course then there's cooking tea etc. My MIL has offered to do one day a week for me (she doesn't live very close but loves to come up once a week anyhow, and the kids adore her) which would help with the crazy afterschool/dinner time madness for that day, but that still leaves 3 days a week where we'll be getting home at 5.30pm earliest with a lot to pack in, and DH often not home until 7pm.
But we desperately need the money and financial security. DH is on quite a low wage and in a fairly insecure job - my new salary would help enormously.

Advice please? Should I take it and get super organised and fit everything into the evenings on the days I work and feel grateful I still get one day off a week and weekends too? Or is it too much? Experiences would be very welcome!!

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RedHelenB · 11/06/2012 20:59

Go for it!! I am sure you will get used to the routine.

JumpingJellyfish · 11/06/2012 21:59

I think I'm mostly nervous about how we'll cope but I'm sure once we get used to the new routine it should be possible without too much stress?! Still suffer from that guilt when the kids ask if I'm picking them up from school (no - they're going to childminder/afterschools club etc..). Eternal maternal guilt!!

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hallamoo · 12/06/2012 17:20

Could you do 5 shorter days, so you could still do afternoon school run, or could your DH/Childminder do the morning school run to allow you to start earlier? I have 4 DC, and only work one day, but the after school/dinner/bedtime routine is hectic on that day to say the least.

I think you'd end up trying to fit too much in tbh, sounds very stressful!

JumpingJellyfish · 13/06/2012 10:12

hallamoo thank you for your post - yes I am trying to figure out which pattern could ease the tea/bedtime craziness. I will have to do 2 full days at least, as may have to travel for meetings etc. which is unlikely to be possible in a half day, but could then see about working 9-2.30 for the other 3 days so I can do the afternoon school pick up etc.

Just have to work out what I can get the childminder to sign up to as well - my DD2 has really bonded with her so don't want to change but it would make my life easier to work friday mornings as well....
I'm sure we can adjust to it all, but just don't want to turn into a complete stresshead and not spend any relaxed time (if there is such a thing!) with the kids....

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