Ok so whats the best way to handle this going forward...............

[mammasmadhouse]

Well I made the mistake of being honest with my boss and telling him I had an interview.I have worked with him for 2 years and he has always had an open door policy.He has often mentioned reviewing my role as there is someone who does something simular but is 2 grades higher, but nothing has ever happended. Since taking the job I have never felt so undervalued and just not sure what I am good at any more, mainly because of the critic/nit picking and the fact that he is always happy to blame others for mistakes. He is very arrogant anyway and no one can out do him in anything.The day after telling him he pretty much blanked me and I have discovered that he has discussed with a colleague the fact that he is ticked off about this which I understand everyone in the office knows about , but insists to my face I am the best employee ever etc etc. Anyway after a pretty much dissterous interview I did'nt get the job, so how can I move on with this situation???

why did you tell your boss you were attending an interview?

what benefit could there ever possibly be, to you?

boggles

You say that at the interview you discovered the job wasn't what you thought it was / wouldn't be the challenge you are looking for so have decided not to take it any further. It has made you think about what you enjoy in your current position and what are you are looking for to stretch yourself, could you have some time to discuss this with him.

ummm -- I think he might see through that. ^^. You may well have to resign yourself to the fact that you've gone as far as you're going to get with this employer, and keep looking for a new job. Good luck.

Then ask to met with him. Sit down and ask what his thoughts are on the feedback you have given him. This will tell you whether you need to keep looking for another job.

Well try complete honesty - tell him you have heard rumours he is is upset that you applied for another job and apologise if it appeared you were being disloyal in any way. Explain that you had tried to avoid that by being open with him. Go on to give the reasons why you were tempted by another job and ask if there is any scope for new responsibilities (or whatever you are looking for ) in your current position.

Thanks for all your replies. In the past I have numerous discussions regarding my role and been told that it would be reviewed, even at my review I mentioned my disappointment and frustration with what I do and how it is viewed but again he is very good at saying what you want to hear and doing nothing, it has always been followed up with comments such as there isnt anyone doing my type of job on a higher band or that if was upgraded I would lose out in paying more pension etc.I was offered a short term role 2 bands higher by my boss for a fixed term which I accepted and a month in found out the pay level offered was'nt going to materlise, but he explained that I got the extra money from working full time as well!!! - but I carried on fulfilled my role. So I am not sure how many knocks I am supposed to take, I have been really upset by this and always been seen as someone who is honest and doesnt bull, sitting here typing the sheer frustration of it all has me in tears. I have said previously that I did'nt want to stay in my existing role forever. I mentioned the interview not to get regraded or more money but to be honest and at the end of the day the area I had the interview he has numerous contacts and I did'nt want him to hear from someone else. One things for sure I definately will not will keeping him informed of my interviews in future!!!!!Apologies for my waffle and typos but as you can see this is playing on my mind!!!

Your cards have been marked in this role, rightly or wrongly.

If you've fed this back to your boss before and he's done nothing/not enough to make you feel more valued, that's a message. Either he's powerless to fix it, too disorganised to organise it, or doesn't want to. All three are communications, you've just failed to pick up on them.

I'm afraid the nail in the coffin is telling your boss you're actively looking to leave - since he's clearly taken the tack to be annoyed (not take it as a wake up call) - how many more signals does he need to give you?

If I were you, don't bother arranging a time to give more feedback, for God's sake don't share any more of your plans with him - keep your head down, do the job you're paid to do acceptably well that he can't complain, but continue attending interviews to seek alternative employment.

There's no other logical course of action, IMHO.

Also wanted to point out that your power dynamic wasn't even fair from the onset.

You said:

I was offered a short term role 2 bands higher by my boss for a fixed term which I accepted and a month in found out the pay level offered was'nt going to materlise, but he explained that I got the extra money from working full time as well!!! - but I carried on fulfilled my role.

Most other people would take that as a clear signal about your boss' priorities and attitudes from the onset, and treat him with caution as a result. You need to open your eyes to this (political) side of employment life.