Very upset, advice needed please help me...

[vinobaroness]

Hi All, I am currently 5 weeks pregnant & today my line manager(I am also a manager) came up to me with a poison pen letter from a customer stating I was bullying her & everytime she came instore I was intimidating her, whispering & gossiping about her.. This letter was badly written, had bad grammer & spelling. It was also sent to an address within my company that only employees have access to as we send our admin here...
I am so upset.I was thrilled when I found out I was expecting but now I'm in shock & worried that the stress I'm feeling will affect my pregnancy. I can't even talk to my husband about it as I am afraid I'll get too distressed...
My line manager said the letter is laughable & not to worry in the slightest it is obviously someone with a grudge against me... I had a run in with another manager who is leaving soon a few months ago & I feel she is out to get me ever since... Please help-how do I react to this? I'm afraid it will escalate further. Hate the feeling of having to watch every step, I just want to go in to work, do my job, go home relax & enjoy my pregnancy....

vino the most important thing you must do is relax...if you feel it was an inside job could you explain to your superiors....make a diary of everything that has happened and try and provide dates of incidents....i know it is stressful but try and keep calm...hopefully someone will be along with better advice xxx for you xxx

oh dear :( last thing you need when your hormones are going crazy. But sweetheart the main thing is your line manager is behind you. the allegations sound a little paranoid to me. Do you have any idea who might have sent it?

The main thing is your position is secure, your boss is behind you, it's unfortunate if someone slightly unsteady has taken against you for whatever reason, but there are plenty of unstable people in the world and it's impossible to keep everyone happy... easy to say i know but try not to get worked up about it, it's not at all important, especially compared to other things going on in your life atm :)

Thanks a million, I do as this employee is leaving next week... My own line manager said it was laughable & to take no notice & the general manager(who letter was posted to)also said it was ludicrous. I was visibly uspset & had to tell my line manager I was 5 weeks pregnant & really didn't need additional stress. I had no intention of telling her yet. She told me she would never had showed me if she had known I was expecting & to go home & forget about it. As no contact details, name or number were given & the letter was just signed a customer she said it was obviously someone a little eccentric or an ex-employee.... So distressed with this & also becauce said letter was sent in to head office...

Thanks bibulus trying to look at the bigger picture & the last thing my little baby needs is excess stress but it is very disorientating to feel that I am open to attack like that... Feeling very vulnerable being pregnant the last thing I need is a vendeta against me:(

Your little bean will be fine, just try your hardest to rationilse this. This is someone who has very little life who has decided to pick on you, your manager can see this and is obviously very caring towards your feelings. If your manager thought that there was anything in it then I suspect a serious conversation would have taken place. When I was pregnant I went through a horrible time with my landlady, we reported her to environmental health after she did nothing about the mould situation in our flat (also the adjoining flats that she owned), she subsequently tried to say it was our fault and threatened court action. We ended up moving in with my parents whilst also trying to buy a house. The doctor signed me off work for a week because I just couldn't cope with it all, on top of all of that our mortgage was about to fall through but thankfully didn't. My little bean is now a bubbly bouncing 6moDD.

You do what you have to do and take it one day at a time and you will be fine. Talk to your husband, he's there for support and will probably tell you you're worrying over nothing and give you a massive cuddle which will instantly make you feel better. When you go to work be as professional and nice as you possibly can be under the circumstances and give this person no reason whatsoever to say anything nasty about you. Hold your head high and show them that you are better than rising to it and that you won't let it effect you.

Thanks so much for all the replies, feel a little bit better today & have vowed not to stress over it for the sake of my precious cargo. Lizzywig that sounds like an awful ordeal you had, moving is stressful enough without being threatened with court action..what is wrong with people???
Well I went into work today with my head held high, all smiles & killing all around me with kindness. I am really trying to rise above it but it makes me so uneasy that someone would attack my character, fabricate complete vengeful nonsense & do it in such a cowardly way. Just worry will there be a next move??? I thought about making a big deal of the letter & making it known there would be an investigation but in hindsight & from the advice given on mn I feel it would be best if it appeared to her that the letter was ignored & I am oblivious to it??