OMG please come and give me tips on surviving full time!

[mosschops30]

I feel like im drowning and its only my second week.

For the past 4 years i have worked two 12 hr shifts a week, one day and one night. Slipped 2 discs and was off work for 3 months before starting a full time SCPHN (health visiting) post grad diploma.
So typically i am 2 days a week in Uni (9.30-4) and then practice 3 days a week (9-5).
I leave the house at 8am to take ds1 to creche, then drive back and take ds2 to school before going in. Some days i pick up from after school clubs, sometimes from activities, but im finding it a struggle just remembering where everyone is . dd just about to start GCSEs too.
I get in, cook tea, tidy up whilst dh keeps dcs amused, he then baths them and does bedtime, he cant do much more as he is out 6.30am til 6.30pm, and i always get weekend lie ins

please tell me how to manage, or that this is what its like for everyone, and that i will survive this year (yes its just a year is what i keep telling myself)

Thanks for listening

You must be so tired.

It is a shock when you go back to work - plus you have the extra stress of having to study and do assignments.

The only advice I can really give is for you not to be too hard on yourself - you are bound to be tired so please be kind to yourself, if you need a sit down and a relax then do it, don't come in and rush round like a bat out of hell hoovering, picking up stuff, laundry etc.

I never minded the work and childcare stuff, but what used to make me go nuts was the housework and general drudgery like shopping for groceries and stuff like sorting household admin. Don't try to be superwoman - get everyone to take responsibility for chores. Get your older children to take a job on - they can clean the bathroom, run the hoover round. Also make sure DH gets an equal share, he works hard but so do you! If you divide your housework up it will prevent resentment from building up.

And be proud of yourself - you have 3 kids, you are working and studying. That is a brilliant achievement.

Thanks for such a lovely post getorf

dh is in the state of mind atm which says 'you wanted to do this so stop moaning'!
But i did say to him tonight that i cant carry on as if im working part time doing the cleaning, cooking, washing, tidying etc and that i need some help