if a female boss apperead to being having an unprofessional relationship with a male collegue, would you report it?

[mrsotter]

My female manager seems to be spending a lot of one of one time with a young make collegue.

This involves leaving the office together, during work hours, to run errands. Errands that could be done by one person.

She is relieving him of duties which puts more work on others and he spends a lot of one on one time with him, including after everyone else has gone home.

The flirtatious behaviour has been noted by all collegues within the office and gossip is rife. Which seems very unproffesional.

Would you report this higher up the chain of command?

no, not unless I wanted my P45 tbh, although I am used to working with managers who 'have it in for you' if you raise your head above the parapit

If I was to do it, then it would be annoysmously, I have no desire to fired

Would you report it if it was a male boss with a younger female colleague?

I'd leave them to it. It's unprofessional but I'm sure won't go unnoticed by those higher up the chain.

I wouldn't, unless it was directly affecting me.

Yes I would. In actual fact I think its more likely to go unreported because she is female.

I would imagine those higher up already know, and tbh the only aspect of this that is any of your business is if your workload is increasing because this colleague isn't pulling his weight.

It's not for you to decide that errands could be done by one person, for example. Nor is it for you to decide that any time they spend together at work after others have gone home is not on.

Yes it is unprofessional if they are having a relationship and allowing it to bleed into work life in this way and resulting in gossip but I'm not sure how 'reporting' it will help anyone really. If you have concerns about your workload, raise it with your manager as you normally would.

If you are concerned on their behalf that people are gossiping, and don't feel comfortable raising it with your manager herself, consider speaking to the colleague about it, just letting him know that people are gossiping, and although his relationship with the manager is none of anyone's business, you thought he might want to be aware.

I'm also not sure how their respective genders are relevant.

They are not in a relationship. They are like dogs on heat. And we are forced to watch.

Well, whatever label you want to put on it - 'a relationship' or 'dogs on heat' - my advice still stands.

"gossip is rife". Well, stop gossiping then... The gossip is as unprofessional and unecessary as their behaviour!

The only possible grounds for making any comment to a superior would be if your workload is being measureably affected; can you prove that you are being given tasks that should be his responsibility?

People get together at work all the time. Yes, ideally they would leave any relationship outside of the workplace, but (other than the workload) if they are doing their jobs then quite frankly it's nothing to do with you.

Running to a boss moaning that you don't like what they are doing is going to smack of nosiness and jealousy I'm afraid.

Does your employer have any policies about workplace relationships? How do you know they are in a relationship? Have they told you? Have you seen them kissing or touching in a sexual way? Perhaps you could give an example of this behaviour so we can look at the situation objectively?

Tbh unless there is a policy or you have witnessed inappropriate sexual behaviour (which could be seen to be sexual harrassment) then the only thing you could "report" would be that you are a dreadful gossip who spends work time indulging in idle speculation.

Is it the age thing that bothers you? Because so long as they're both adults it's not really your business so long as none of the above applies.

The only thing you could raise without looking like a judgemental busy-body is the increase in workload and the first person you should speak to if you want to be seen to be credible and professional is your boss.

Actually, you just sound really judgemental. Unless your employer has an explicit "no relationships" rule, what they are doing is not illegal, and it's only unprofessional if it has a verifiable impact on the employees' collective performance. So far, it doesn't sound like you have any evidence that it does. If I were you I'd mind my own business.