hate my job..any advice?

[manise22]

I currently work fulltime at a job I hate.. My partner works fulltime also.. However I recently got a call from my sons nursery he is 2yrs of age saying he was really ill.. When I picked him up I could see he was in no fit state. It made me realise how much I put my job first even though I really don't enjoy it. I'd love to be a stay at home mum but am really worried that the benefits won't be enough to cover my bills with my being with my partner. Can anybody help please? Thank you

Do your sums and go from there? Weigh up impact on things like pension provision (state and company), future working options and the different lifestyle of being at home rather than out at work. Look for another job? Go part time?

Firstly just because your child is in nursery doesn't mean you are putting your job first. Most people have to work to put food on the table but it doesn't mean they are not putting their children first.

I'm no expert at all about benefits but I'd be surprised if you would be entitled to any benefits if you leave your job purely because you'd prefer not to work.

Are you looking for a different job if you hate the one you have? If you'd rather not use so much childcare how about jobs that involve working at least partly when your partner is at home, so reducing the amount of nursery time you need?

Could you not barer for flexi hours or go part-time? Or look for a job you would enjoy more?

It is a big jump to go from full-time work to being a SAHM and I think when you hate your job and are stressed, it is easy to romanticise staying at home with a toddler.

I am not being negative, but if money is tight, it is better to stay in some type of work.

barter

I appreciate all of your comments regarding this. And I have worked since I was 14. I think when my son became ill last week. It made me realise that life is too short and that His younger years are so important. Also surely the issue is why should anybody be looking after my child fulltime when my job should be being a mother however hard times are?

Manise, only you know what is right for your family and your life.

But I have done it all - been a SAHM, worked part time, worked full time - and I have to say that you do not have to be a SAHM to be a brilliant mum.

Nobody is any less of a mother because they work, p/t or f/t.

If you can afford to just give up work and decide you'd rather stay at home, great. Most people can't afford that.

If you want to reduce the amount of professional childcare you use, reduce your hours and/or find a job that works around your partner's hours.

flowery exactly.