Bullying at work :-(

[ilovemy2babies]

hi looking for some advice, I was bullied by my manager in a previous job 8 years ago she was horrible - she gave me the worst jobs, excluded me and spoke to me like I was thick. At the time I felt it was my fault as I was weak I was going through a difficult time and just let her bully me.

8 years on and I'm in a job that I enjoy, most of the time!! I've never had a problem with my manager although she can be moody at times. On Friday she was in a bad mood and when I asked her a question she was really rude and spoke to me like I was thick (like my old manager). I asked her not to speak to me like that and after I had calmed down I went to her office to speak to her about it to tell her she was out of order. All the memories of my old manager bullying me started rushing through my head and I just broke down and started crying. I feel embarrassed she probably thinks I over reacted.

What should I do? :-(

Hmmmm, I would say if you can talk about it on Monday without getting upset, I would have another word and just say that you appreciated her listening and hopefully she can understand why you were so upset!

I wouldn't be too embarrassed, and if all else due to being a manager and confidentiality and all that she shouldn't mention it to anyone else.

Hope you're ok now, there is nothing worse than being bullied at work.

for you but try not to over think it. I take it when you cried you made it clear it was about the history of bullying and not feeling bullied by current manager? Hold your head up next time your in, be professional, apologise, explain yourself clearly and concisely and (hope) it doesn't happen again. Damn bullies! Awful how it can affect you!

I didnt tell her I was bullied in my previous job I just cried and told her I didn't like been spoken to like that, that's why she's going to think I've over reacted :(

Ok then nothing can be done til Monday morning. Don't let it ruin your weekend! Make it clear in your head what you need to say so you don't 'loose' her and just confront this head on. Be strong and get it out of the way and put to bed 1st thing. Then you can get on with doing a good job

How long have you worked togeather?

Thinking at it from your managers point of view she may just have snapped at you due to a bad afternoon etc and you have very much taken it to heart because of your undealt with past issues.

A few of our seniors at work can have snappy days due to pressure but I now have a thick skin and can rise above the odd stressy day.

It won't do any harm to have a chat on Monday - if it was a one off and not bullying at work, and if your manager acknowledges that they made you feel bad they should have be able to reassure you and you can then mmove on.

Bohica we have worked together for 5 years, she can be very snappy but I like you im usually thick skinned. I lost my thick skin on Friday and just broke down I don't know why :(

Well ilovemy2babies did you speak to your manager?