bullying, grievence, resigning help

[Pompbear]

I'm currently off sick with stress due to workplace bullying. With the help of my union rep i have raised a formal grievence against the bully but HR are really dragging their heels - nearly 3 months later i only now have a date for an initial meeting. Tje stress has been unbearable and has all but torn my family apart. My DH thinks I should just resign.and be done with it and be a sahm for a bit. To be honest i think we wiuld all benefit from that BUT financially it would be tight. 3 dcs in childcare, 6 week notice period. My notice period is 3 months, union.rep is really busy so i struggle to get hold of her.can i resign and ask, if under the circumstances i can be paid for my notice period and not return? I cant imagine ever going back to the office, it has been the worst two years off my life. My career used to be really important but now my health, my marriage and my family have suffered a lot and i dont care about work anymore, or the arsehole who has caused me so much grief. We'll get by somehow. I just want to walk away and eventually be able to chalk it down to experience, maybe even laugh about it someday. Has anyone asked for this kind of thing and been successful? My GP is really supportive but im sick with worry each week about him suggesting i start thinking about going back. I cant, i dont ever want to set foot back.in the place. They win. i dont care. But i have the childcare notice period hanging over me. Not being paid my notice period, or some of it would make it really really tough, already into overdraft as it is. We cant start off massively in debt as we just wont manage to pay it back on one salary.

Sorry so long.

If you resign but are still signed off sick you will get paid your notice period (at what ever rate you get paid at after x weeks on sick leave). I.e. if you go down to SSP that's all you get paid, full pay if that's not the case.

Thanks Grevling

I'm on full pay at the moment, I would get up to 6 months full pay I think, I've been off 3 weeks now. I just want it over though, I was kind of hoping I could resign with immediate effect so I can try and move on a bit. I've thought and worried about nothing else for the last 2 years and I just want to walk away from it all. I'm worried that if I resign and they say no, I might have to go back, and I worry all the time that my GP will stop signing me off,, and then if I say I don't want to work my notice, they could sue couldn't they? Which I just couldn't take. My Dsis thinks I should go to tribunal over it all but I coudn't think of anything worse, I just want it over with :-(

If you can get signed off for the next three months, resign - you get your full pay for notice period and full pay ie the end result you're looking for

If you aak to resign without providing norice then of course your company has the option of not paying you.

Speak to your doctor and aak him to sign you off longer than a week at a time.

Sounds terrible, is it a problem with a colleague? I know how that feels and how it can make the best job ever into a living nightmare. I think whatever u decide to do you should tackle the grievance for your own self esteem and confidence x

Sounds like your GP not the most understanding. Mine was great in similar circumstances and even told me about a bullying incident in her own (former) workplace. You need more than one week off to get some distance from this. Resign and walk away. Winning the grievance means nothing in comparison to ill health. The bully will not be punished, they never are. Current HR policies are worthless against the issue. Good luck.