Still a muddle...what do you do and think?

[Doobydoo]

Posted a while ago re a job in London and travel etc.
Just wanted opinions on the following scenario:
I have 2 sons(12 and nearly 5)
I could work in London and stay there...go Monday morning and back Friday morning.
I need to do 13 longdays in 4 weeks and will nedd to do an extra 3 for money.
I have also looked at daily commute earliest train 06.17 get to work for 09.00 back home maybe 11ish 3 or 4 times aweek,I will also be undertaking a course in 6 months with job so will need to study.
HELP...Can't see wood for trees.
If you understand this..well done

Didn't want to leave you with no response but can't advise really as completely different world to me. But give more info and maybe you'll get some responses. Good luck.

Your sons education, childcare, do you have family to help, do you have a dh/ dp, How far is London from your home etc.

Sounds hellish, to be honest, but different strokes for different folks and all that.

The daily commute might give you enforced study time, but a bit pointless coming home only to go to bed and go straight out again in the morning.

Is it a dream job worth making sacrifices for?

Thank you for replies,
It would be around 2 1/2 hour commute each way.Dp would be at home with the boys.One is in 2nd year at a school he loves.
We are really looking ahead a few years.I ama nurse had a job round here became ill out of the blue and am now better.Have been working as a housekeeper on minimum wage for 8 months.
The job is in a NICU and I will be trained in Neonatal intensive care after 6 months which would take around 9 months to complete.(I am a paediatric nurse).It would take ages to reach that level round here even if there were jobs,which there aren't.
Have been thinking of all different permutations.It is driving dp and I bonkers!
Looking to move nearer my mum in about 5 years and want options re work then.
It is darn difficult.

Hi there

It does sound like a lot of hard work but I can also see why you are keen to do it as its such a good opportunity. How long would you want/ need to do this for until you moved to another post? you mention moving to near to your mums in 5 years time so would you be doing this commute until then?

Also a big plus that your DH is around does he pick DCs up from school?

I reckon it could be 2 1/2 years AS they would like at least a year out of me after training.I could then poss work nearer home not such a long commite.I think I have worked out a convoluted shift pattern(smile) which would mean being away for 3 nights but seeing the dc's Monday before I go and then back 6.30ish Thurs eve.Might have to do 4 nights sometimes but not for 6 months or so.Ds1 is at secondary school and ds2 is home edded at the moment..he is nearly 5.

If it was me in your situation, given that your DH is at home and your 5 year old home edded, I would look to move closer to the job. It is a hell of a long time imo to commute and don't forget the costs will not be negligible either.

If you'd said 1 year maybe, but 2 and a half years is a long time and all the travelling will take a toll - I did it for 2 and a half years many moons ago and it nearly cost me my health and I didn't have children at the time or a partner!!

Agree re commute and costs.We live in Lincolnshire and the train from Grantham is just over an hour which ain't too bad.Then it's one tube and a 15 min walk or the bus to the hospital.
That is why staying away might be better as will need to study etc.Even with London weighting accomodation and travel is pricey isn't it?

Yeah 2.5 years is a long time. It would be a different story if it was 6 months or even a year.

Is it an option to move closer?

Not really blimmin difficult.
Still on the upsise one of us has always been with them,this will continue with dp being there.It used to be him being away for nights or weeks at a time.This way at least I know and they know I will see them Monday morning and be back thurs eve and have fri,sat and sun.iT'S HARD

Just thought I would let you know I am going to do it!
Hopefully be 2 years max.Have to think about me and dp for future and also boys future.
Dp will be a sahd so at least one of us will be around full time.I am frightened but think it is something positive as well.Thanks for all advice.

I will be staying up there.