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Any lawyers out there who have found a change of career ?

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stickytoffee · 01/03/2012 21:30

Hi there...

I currently work as a lawyer....I worked in the city for some years and then moved out to the suburbs and have a seemingly good (p/t) job locally....I am over 10 years qualified.

At work I am in a small team....it has reduced in numbers over the years. I am feeling more and more under pressure to do vastly more than my part time role (there is someone who picks up the work on my days "off") but even then I feel "on call" constantly (transactions still go on when you're not in the office) and then am expected to do "extra" things - marketing events and seminars and writing articles....and constantly reminded of this by a boss who is a micro manager.

I suspect if (a) I didn't have children and had no time issues with pick up and drop offs at nursery/childminder (b) I had more "free" time when I'm not at work (c) hadn't had my pay cut due to economy and told that would be reflected in having my hours reduced although this really isn't true in practice (d) didn't have a husband in a pretty pressured job himself (he's the one up the ladder) (e) I often feel complete irritation with the pettiness of the higher powers at work (!) ..... I might feel slightly better about it all.

The kids are pre school and primary ages...homewise, DH has a very demanding job which has him working early, late and often evenings after he's come home. He does what he can , but we did agree that it would be me who would take the more "back seat" position with regard to moving up the career ladder which then means that on the days when I am at home, I pick up the domestic slack and deal with everything probably bar putting the bins out !...

Personally, I like going to work but as jobs in my particular area are few and far between I think my employer thinks she has me over a barrel and that we should somehow be grateful to have a part time role....I am often reminded how such a part time role is not "brilliant " ie inconvenient....(female, certain age, no kids). Financially, it is nice to have the money coming in but if I was perfectly honest, I am lucky that we are not dependent on it and as a result I suppose it is not the money that motivates me but having something outside of the home does and getting some sort of (cliche I know) work life balance. As you can see that work /life balance isn't quite happening.

I suspect I am not alone in this and am going through a "is the grass greener on another side" moment. I also wonder whether I am scared of giving up but actually could be happier.....

However, as you can see it has got me wondering what to do....whether I stick it out until either I work it out or am perhaps even made redundant or whether I think about other things I could do.....retrain...

I would love to hear your thoughts/stories....

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PineCones · 01/03/2012 23:58

Hi sticky- this site contains a lot of inspiration.
Have you thought of maybe starting an online retail business?

stickytoffee · 02/03/2012 07:26

Thanks for that - I had had a little search around the web but hadn't found this one. I'm definitely keen on doing something but I will probably bide my time.....I read another thread last night on lawyers who'd given up most of whom seemed to be relieved !!!

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PineCones · 02/03/2012 09:46

... no prizes for guessing why they were relieved! Grin

MOSagain · 06/03/2012 14:08

LOL, I'm on the other side of it. I took what was supposed to be a 2 year career break over 6 years ago now due to DH's career which meant I had to move abroad where I couldn't practice. Despite keeping up with CPD and retaining practicing certificate I am now back in UK looking for work and suspect no one will touch me with a bargepole as I've been out of it for too long.

Am just re-considering my very limited options now Sad

NoMoreWasabi · 06/03/2012 14:14

There is another option you could consider - go full time and buy in help (nanny-housekeeper, cleaner, send shirts out etc) to free you up out of work. Not for everyone but worth thinking about.

stickytoffee · 08/03/2012 22:23

I've considered it........and it might be an option until I perhaps decide what to do - in this market it's not that easy to find alternatives and I'm desperate not to lose out....

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childofthe80s · 09/03/2012 13:27

Hmm. It is really difficult to know isn't it. Sometimes I think jobs just "run out of steam" a bit. It sounds like you're not absolutely sure you want to leave, why don't you get a big piece of paper, glass of wine and a pen and think through all the options and issues - (a) what are the pros and cons of your job; (b) what bits do you enjoy/not enjoy -i.e. what would you like to do more and less of; (c) what are your personal strengths and weaknesses. You can then give a value to each of those things and decide what is most important and give a value to each of them. Then if you do decide you want to leave, you will have a better idea of what you are looking for next.

Putting a word in for the employers' side, if times are tough and they I have to reduce your pay, it sounds like things might be a bit stressful. Have you made sure that it looks like you are still committed/keen - I can see that if you are worrying about the department as a whole, having someone looks a bit, well half-hearted might be a bit dispiriting as well. A bit of enthusiasm can go a long way.

Good luck anyway.

thegruffalossecretlovechild · 12/03/2012 12:49

I came across this thread when I was thinking of starting my own thread asking for advice about getting out of law! I've just got back from a week's holiday. I was hoping that a week away from the office might give me a slightly different perspective but, nope, I feel exactly the same as when I left, perhaps more so and have spent half the morning mentally composing my resignation letter! It would be great to hear from anyone who has made a move out of law and how they achieved it. The link to the website above was very inspiring too!

stickytoffee · 09/05/2012 20:47

Can I resurrect this thread please ?

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TherealMrsBloom · 09/05/2012 23:35

Hi Sticky had you thought about:
-being a professional support lawyer; or

  • legal publishing eg Practical Law Company; or
  • government work (government legal service),

(nb last 2 would need you to be commuting distance from London but working from home and pt would be available)?

All of which would free you from transactional work ( and the horror of time recording) and give you some flexibility. Also, these options would enable you to "keep your hand in" in case you ever want to return to private practice when your DCs are older.

minipie · 14/05/2012 13:01

hi sticky - I am you a few years ago! (city lawyer, about to have kids, hoping to find a p/t job once I do).

Your experience has confirmed my fears about being a p/t lawyer, i.e. you end up doing far more hours than you're paid for.

I wonder, wat do you think would happen if you dug your heels in at work and said "it was agreed I would be doing X hours, I'm currently doing Y hours, I really need to go back to X hours or the job doesn't make sense for me". In other words effectively refuse to do the extra hours... I know this will be unpopular at work but if you're on the verge of giving up anyway, what have you got to lose?

The lawyers who seem to be happiest, from what I can tell, are those who've gone in house. Would that be an option for you?

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