I know I've been really lucky to have been able to spend the last 14mo at home with DS, but time has come and my mat leave is ending. Thing is, I'm also starting a new job which means I'll be going back to working 5 days/week. In my last job I was working 4 days/week which I thoroughly enjoyed and struck a really good balance for me. DH works shifts and so he is around during the week quite a lot which means the DCs will still get a lot of parental input on a day to day basis, although DS will be at nursery 3 days a week and DD is going to a friend's before and after school on those days.
I have no worries about the childcare arrangements, but lets put it this way, DH's favourite and most used phrase is, 'I forgot'. I have a dread that as a lot of the day to day communication between DDs school and home will go via him, I'll ask/remind him that stuff needs doing and he'll behave as if it's under control and then it won't get done because 'he forgot'.
I'm hoping I'll be able to adjust/reduce my hours in the near future (I did speak to my new manager about this when I accepted the job so I know it's a viable option) but until then, what can I do?
DH knows that I have doubts about his reliability at stuff like this, so talking to him about it is unlikely to add anything, other than him ending up being on the defensive.