nasty women at work gave out christmas presents to everyone but me!!??

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i just need to vent this.
there is this women at my work who is fly, sneaky, nasty and 2 faced. she is always like this. shes nice to you one day, and subtly rude, nasty etc on other days. most of the time it doesnt bother me too much (except this time last year when i nearly made a formal complaint about her to my line manager). she talks about everyone behind their backs yet gets away with it and no one pulls her up for it. its like were all scared of her.

anyway, today she gave out christmas gifts to almost all staff. not me and not my friend. now just to be clear, i couldnt give a shit about getting gifts, material things mean almost nothing to me. but to be left out?? on the last day of work before christmas??
isnt that just bloody rude and nasty? and what is her problem?

i am very professional with her at work. im actually quite respectful towards her as shes a good 20 years older than me and it wouldnt feel right to be bitchy back.

im really annoyed that she has spoilt what was a very exciting day for me and my family (end of work/beginning of christmas hols) but im also really annoyed at myself for being bothered by her. for even writing this! for giving her air time in my livingroom! ive been talking to my husband about it too tonight but just felt the need to write this too to really purge these feelings out.

i should be able to rise above this, knowing that shes just a sad, miserable, jealous bitch and im quite a nice person with a relatively happy life.

god this feels good.

not looking for much of a response but any advice from someone who 'gets' this post would be much appreciated.

thanks in advance and...Merry Christmas!! (almost)

I used to work with a woman like this, she used to upset every member of the department in turn.

Forget her, shes clearly unhappy - I'd start looking for another job, not easy at the moment I know but you're better off out of there.

She sounds like a bit of a cow. But she can give gifts to whoever she likes - you wouldn't expect someone who you talk about the way you have to buy you a gift, surely?

thats exactly what ive been beginning to think. its a toxic environment and im not the only one who dislikes her. i will keep my eye out for another job in 2012 but its a very competitive time and id need to raise my game for the interview. not easy when you have 3 kids.
thanks pandy

You've has a rant, you're not really bothered about the present so don't give it anymore head space. It's not worth it.

i asked people who get this post to reply.

you obviously dont get it so you are not helping me at all.

theres far more detail to the situation but didnt want to go on and on. surely it comes across that i am angry at this moment, not habitually a name caller.

thanks redblanket.

my last post was to thebigkahuna.

Wow. I can't for the life of me think why she wouldn't buy you a present

I totally get how you need to "purge these feelings out" so that you can reach a feeling of indifference. You sound nice, she sounds vile, but as Pandygirl says, she's probably very unhappy. Carry on rising above it and look for a new job at your leisure in the new year.

Merry Christmas

I think you may work at my place, i have a vile horror like this too.
Rise above it, like you are. It will be someone else's turn on her hit list next year xxxx

ha ha. yes i get what youre saying bigk but come on. the womens a bitch to me! i cant be a saint all the time. i know sweary words and they come out when someone has really bugged me.

anyway, im not getting the support i thought i might get from here so im off to do something christmassy before bed.

thanks franke and bbc. there cant be more than one of her surely?

i know, ive heard theres always one in every work. i just cant believe how they can go about planning their nastiness (not talking about the lack of gift here, a multitude of other nasty things shes done) and then sleep well at night??

i suppose it was my turn, its been a full year since shes focused on me!
well, ive 2 weeks off to immerse myself in my lovely family. that will give me the strength to take her on for another few months when i return in january.

Hi, this sounds like the women in the place where I work. The woman you are describing her problem is that she is jealous of you. You are 20 years younger , more professional etc. maybe she thinks you're in line for a promotion that she feels is hers. She is a jealous miserable woman. She wants you to react so do the opposite - I now it's hard to do in practice. there was this one lady who was never nice to me in that she wouldn't respond to saying hello, gave me funny looks. I used to be happy, smiley bubbly person. The moment there was a set back in my career in that place and I looked miserable did she start saying hello, being nice asking how I am. I still cannot believe this happened even now. i know alot of women like this who haven't progressed in their jobs and seen countless colleagues rise above them so they resort to this level of nastiness.

Hello, I totally get how you feel. There are two women in my office who are pure toxic. Am sat up at this late hour because they totally consume me, I can't sleep and feel sick when I pull up outside the office and I see their cars there. Like your situation one moment they are ok and the next they are a disgrace. Today the one in particular didn't speak to me till 10.30, we start work at 8.30, she sat with her back to me, I am a fool as I go out of my way to be nice to them. Like you I try to say they don't bother me, I have even nick named them satans sisters and the office is mount doom. Today they made out that they were going of to lunch separately so that I don't go to the wimpy with them, not that I would want to go, it's a relief when they go out. It's the deliberately leaving out that bothers me. There is only the 3 of us in our office with the occasionally vist from the boss. I have told her today that I can no longer go on like this, she says there is nothing she can do about it. Upstairs in the training department they hate them, in our other offices no one else has a good wrd to say, I have lots of words of sympathy and support from my other team members who are based in other offices, but in the dark of night it's me that has to be with them. Am sorry for adding to your rant, at the moment I don't feel any better, and am truly sorry that this woman spoilt your last day of work before Christmas, a friend of mine says that there are two things that are fact, bad things happen to good people, sadly. And that what comes around goes around, and that while it might not e evident these women that make us suffer because we a nice good people will have it returned. We live live in hope.

Hi Joloaf, didn't want to read and run, but what a pair of total cows they are. I'm sorry they are affecting you so much.. I have experienced poison like this at work before too.
i had the last laugh tho by getting promoted above toxic-waste woman.. Much joy!
I hope you have an outlet to vent your much justified steam... xxxxx

Ps... If it is having that much of an impact on you that it's affecting your well being outside work, then you might want to
Post in
'Employment issues' to see if anyone has some good advice xxxx take care xxxx

Oops.. I meant a separate post in Employment issues

That woman sounds awful.
She probably had a shit Christmas alone.
I am sure you had a nice time with your husband and children.
My best friend had this situation at her workplace too. It got so bad its actually bullying not just being a bitch. She used to ring me in tears and she's the kind of person who would get on with everyone. She's kind, pretty, funny, a bloody good friend and would do anything for anyone. So it was clearly their problem.
She stuck it out for a while and was offered another job, she took it and is much happier now. Her new jobs a bit further away from where she lives but think the extra half hour travelling is worth the better time at work!