Do I quit my job?

[teapot81]

I have 3 children (10,7 and 6) my husband works full time days and I currently work evenings.

My eldest struggles with school and though my husand tries to help her with the homework he hasn't enough time in the evenings to give her all the help she needs. After a recent parent teacher I was told that she is in the remedial group for all topics, the guilt has set in and I don't feel that by working I am doing the best thing for her.

I spend my days shattered and struggle to get up with the kids in the morning as I work until late. I manage to do the basic housework but find that by the time that and any shopping is done its time to pick the kids up from school, make tea and then go to work.

I can't work days because I cannot afford childcare cost during school holidays.

I'm just really confused, I've always worked-we needed the money but I think we could just about get by without it now. I suppose the question really is whats best for my children? But i think wrighting it down just answered that.

Hi there, Somtimes it does help writing it down. Something or someone always has to give when you are in these situations. I know you say money is tight but have you thought about sending your child to a tutor? I did that for a few months and it was worth every penny. I wouldn't accept what the school have said and would get a second opionin ie go and get her assessed by someone else. It really helped my DD and gave her the confidence she was lacking. They cost from about £25.00 per hour I know its a lot but believe me it really is worth it to see your little one smile becaused they understand something and don't feel silly or made to feel silly. Good luck and let me know how you get on. You may be able to carry on with your job as well knowing that she is getting help.

OMG, stevienicks replied to my post!!!!

Thank you for you advice. The school had her assessed by an ed psyc last year for her bad handwrighting, I was told that she was a little behind but nothing to worry about, its only now that she is in her final year of primary I have been told that it is something to worry about. The assesment found nothing wrong, she's just behind. It is entirely confidence based, ask her a question that she doesn't realise is maths and she can answer quicker than me - say the word plus and she turns to mush.

She already does the Carol Vorderman Maths Factor which has been brilliant for her and is much cheaper than a tutor, but one question wrong and she forgets how to add on one.

I've made my (completly unrealistic) decision though

1 get a job as a dinner lady starting next week

2 win/inherit £4000 to compensate for loss of income

3 dd suddenly comes home and says that shes been offered a scholarship to oxford/cambridge in the next year because they suddenly realise the problem is shes far too intelligent.

Presumably your daughter has been at the same primary school since Reception, this will be her seventh year and the school only flagged to you that she had any problems last year? What are the school doing to address the fact that she is not at the expected standard - are they arranging another appointment with an Educational Psychologist; has she been offered intensive catch up classes, one-to-one tuition etc. Don't assume it's all your fault. Obviously you and your husband are responsible for the learning environment at home - has she somewhere quiet to work and the resources she needs? Will one of you help her when she gets stuck? Don't beat yourself up and assume you need to resign - take a deep breath, go back to the school and work out how you are going to help her together - them as educational experts who need to secure her the extra expert help it sounds like she needs and you and your husband providing a supportive complementary home learning environment. Good luck.

I only wish I was the real stevienicks!!!!!