First day back into work- feel really down

[JenniferR]

Hi

I went in for an afternoon. I manage a team and most of them just moaned when I went in and didn't ask after me or baby. A lot of people in the office just ignored me.

Also seems that the team are now working late most evenings (didn't when I was there) and part of my role now involves closing up which means I need to stay late (didn't need to do this before).

Feel really down about it, don't know how I'll manage staying back late, working full time and juggling everything else. I have been really loyal to my team and can't believe their reaction to me.

Anyone else been through this type of thing? What did you do/how did you get through it?

Hi going back to work always bit of anticlimax.if you are employed have they altered your job contract ? If they havent then legally you are still entiitled to your previous hours.In my experience those without children will moan about those with kids, and even those with older kids forgot what its like to have young children! Sympathies, and work isnt everything, so hopefully as things settle you will feel better.

Hi - this sounds terrible, so sorry for you! I can't believe their behaviour. I wonder if something happened while you were away, it seems the mood is not good in general, it definitely doesn't sound like a supportive environment! also make sure you set boundaries about working late, in a constructive way, see if you can change processes so that working late is not required. good luck! i'm due back at work soon and hope to have a different experience!

Yes, no one at work bought me a present or even a card when I got married. On my last day I was like, "Bye then! See you in three weeks!!!" Very difficult especially as my Dad had been diagnosed with cancer and had been in hospital that week.

When I came back after honeymoon my boss asked me organise some flowers for one of the bloke's who had just had a baby. I handed my notice in the next day.

Best thing I did...

Thanks for your supportive messages on this. Can't tell you how good it feels to be able to get some like minded mums getting back to me.
I'm in again this afternoon- boo!

Wilsit I was away a new system was brought in which I believe upped the work load a lot and 2 of my team are now signed off with stress (wasn't told this but found out on the grapevine). Things got so bad it made the local papers.

I think that they resent that I've been on maternity and as I'm a manager not sure I'll get much sympathy, despite my bending over backwards to make this as good as possible when I was there.

Actually does anyone know- They wouldn't get back to me about KIT days until 2 weeks before my maternity was up. I need to go in for more training but it will be when I'm on annual leave- am I entitled to a day back for going in?

If you make friends at work it's a bonus IME. Lucky that I work in quite a nice environment with a large bunch of very nice chaps. Sadly, it hasn't always been like that...

Can't advise on KIT days sorry.