Occupational health are phoning me to discuss why I have been signed off work for 4 weeks with stress.
The reason is my manager who I feel is bullying me. My doctor advised me to present my case in a way which isn't a character assassination of him and to state points which will help me return to work. I have been there many years, I wish to return to full time once the children are older and leaving isn't part of the plan.
I desperately want to return and to go back to normal however I need progress to have been made as the thought of working with him and returning to how it was before sends fear through me. I cannot sleep, my eczema flares up, I feel sick and dread of the thought of working with him.
I know upon my return he will issue me with a disciplinary warning for my absence which he will take great pleasure from and the thought of sitting there in an office with him makes my heart race and stomach turn.
The main things I feel he does wrong:
Constant criticism and humiliation in front of others.
Blaming me for things others have done wrong.
Making me take on extra tasks he doesn't ask others to do.
He lets everyone else leave early if the work is done whilst making me stay and doing extra work.
I have to ask his permission to leave when no one else does.
Keeping information of meetings from me and then telling me off when I miss them.
This last point occurred again the night I last went to work. My manager had four hours to inform me of a meeting, when all the work was complete I asked my supervisor (who was the highest authority on the floor at that time) if we could leave he said yes and a number of us left early. Unbeknown to me and my supervisor, my manager had arranged a meeting which he said I should have attended and promptly called it the minute I had left the building. I absolutely feel he done this on purpose as he knows the time I left the building which makes me think he was watching me on the cameras.
The next day he left it, once again, to the last minute of the shift to tell me he wanted a meeting with me re. non attendance of the previous meeting, I said I wanted my union rep present (whiche he aware I always wanted a rep with me) he said the union rep. He said the union rep finishes at 6pm so he wouldn't have waited till the time my manager wanted the meeting (6.30pm) so I would have to just a colleague in with me, but the only colleagues available were the new starters. That would have been no different to going in alone so I asked to have the meeting postponed, he continued to argue with me on the floor in front of everyone telling me I should have told my union rep, it's my responsibility. I pointed out that I had only just found out about the meeting so informing him earlier would have been impossible and I asked why my manager couldn't have told me about the meeting at the start of my shift - giving me a chance to inform the union rep. He continued to argue with me that it was my fault. In the end I walked away and came home crying. The next day I was signed off.
This sounds petty and infantile but it's a constant battle I face everyday and no one manager in my workplace seems to understand this . My colleagues understand and my supervisor has said he will back me in a grievance and encourages me to take this route.
I know this is long, so I really need help how to present this to occupational health in a shorter reasonable way so they will listen and help.