Do I do anything, or just live with it until ML?

[fufulina]

I started this job in November last year. I knew, almost immediately, it was a mistake, but trucked on, thinking I should give it time. When I took the job, it was a big decision for my and DH, because it meant delaying trying for another baby until the summer this year. So - mistake duly made, and job nothing as was sold to me (nor the company for that matter), I got pregnant in May.

I already have a DD, and the owner has always been snidey about my hours - I negotiated 4 days a week, and leaving at 5 on the days I work. I negotiated that when I joined, and after three months got a payrise, so they can't be that outraged with my performance... But he mentions how we can't all 'leave at 5' in every single company meeting we've had since I've been here.

Anyway - since I've been pregnant, I have been progressively sidelined - ignored by the MD, the owner (it's a small company - about 25 people), and new projects aren't even being discussed with me. After another snipey comment today about my 'lack of flexibility' (I was once asked to work on my non-work day and I said no) made literally behind my back (owner was standing behind me), I feel like maybe I should raise it? Or should I sod it? I am off on ML in January, and wonder if I should just keep my head down. But - it's starting to feel like bullying.

Advice would be much appreciated.

Do you intend to go back?

I'd say sod it and look for something else if you're not fussed either way. While it'd be nice to stick it to them in a legal sense the owner is unlikely to change his opinions/prejudices then give you a hug and say sorry. He's the owner and presumably doesn't have to answer to anyone.

That is the problem in small companies, without going to a full tribuneral if the problem is with the owner there is not much you can do.

Personally I'd keep my head down, take the mat leave and not go back. It is difficult for small companies to accomodate ML, but they have to and sniping at you is just childish.

Thanks both - that is definitely the conclusion I've come to. That it won't change anything, and indeed would make like even more uncomfortable than it is at the moment. And yes - completely agree re: small companies - this is the last owner-run company I work in, other than my own when I eventually grow the balls to do it!
Thank you both for your responses.

life more uncomfortable... Sorry

I agree with just sticking it out, although would also likely keep a record of dates and times and what is said and by whom - until you find another job you may need that information if it becomes unbearable and you truly feel it is bullying.

fufulina, I could have written your post.

I'm in a similar situation. Started earlier this year after being sort of headhunted for the role. Knew within days that I'd made a massive mistake but thought it would get better.

My manager constantly makes digs about me being part time even though I'm actually working a 34 hour week and this morning was so rude to me, I felt like telling here where to stick her job.

Thankfully my contract ends in Jan and my second DC is due in March so at the moment I'm just counting the weeks off. My DH said last night that I should have a word with her but I just can't be arsed. It will make no difference whatsoever as she's virtually untouchable.

Stick with it until ML.

I am going through something similar. I started my job in June. I knew even in the interview that the boss doesn't like me, but as I had been unemployed for 3 months and the job was ideal, I accepted the job.
I am now 20 weeks pregnant and the situation with my boss is deteriorating, I have anxiety attacks all the time, but as I cannot hide my bump for interviews anymore, I have decided to stay in this job until ML.
I will start ML quite early (maybe at 36 weeks) just to get myself mentally back to normal before the baby arrives. During ML I will look for a new job.
I have also started hypnosis treatments, in the hope that I will make it through the remaining months at work :) Could be load of old tosh, but we'll see.