I have changed my name rather than am a troll, as I have met the people in question and would detest being recognised. Sorry.
Dh's work has to cover shifts over Xmas Day and NYE, so Dh works NYE and someone else (no kids) works Xmas Day. Fine so far. The problem is with the departmental managers, with whom DH is interchangeable because of past experience. Their line manager says they have to BOTh come in BOTH days (they upset him recently and this is his reward).
Their solution is to change the shifts so that Dh is scheduled for Xmas Day but he doesn't go in and they swipe his timecard. Someone else does the same NYE.
Whilst I like the idea of him home NYE and I fully appreciate his manager has three children under 5, one who is six weeks old and he wants to see them, I am scared rigid he will be found out and sacked. to say we would lose everything would be an understatement- i can't work for various reasons, and we have an extortionate mortgage that costs over half of our income. We also have very small children.
If Dh backs out they can now force him to go in on Xmas Eve which will eff up Xmas as we should be away, I cannot drive and we don't have enough money put aside to do the whole Xmas thing here (gave loads to parents who are hosting). If he telephones managers to say 'Hang on chaps, not on' he's making himself very vulnerable as there are big changes afoot at his place of work.
But even if he doesn't get caught, I know I will be panicking all over Christmas now. I hate lying, am as honest as I can possibly be in every way and it has never led me to any harm.
I also feel things have started to go right for us this year, and he is inviting bad karma. or is he? he's helping someone see their nb son on christmas day.
Dh has asked if I want him to telephone and say no way guys, but if I say yes then he will hold me responsible for any negativity he receives, and there tends to be a lot there anyway. I told him that was his choice but that I was severely unhappy.