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How long do you have to be in a job before it's acceptable to leave?

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leicestershiregirl · 11/08/2011 21:58

Please can anybody advise me?

I'm tempted to leave my job but I'm worried that I've not been in it long enough and to leave now would look bad on my already less-than-impressive CV.

I'm a nursing assistant, part-time, and have been in post for nearly 8 months. I realised not long after starting that it's not for me, but I thought I'd better stay for at least a year - the longest I've ever stayed in any job is 8 months exactly, I'm aware this looks flaky and I don't have anybody I can rely on for a solid work reference (my old boss wrote me a reference for this job but I was surprised she did as I was there for just 5 months).

A friend of mine thinks a year is not long enough to prove I've got staying power but the thought of working there any longer than that seriously depresses me. I'm thinking about continuing to work at the hospital but applying for a different role e.g. in admin - would this count as a new job to future employers or would it just be seen as an internal transfer?

I would feel very unsure about asking my current boss for a reference because I've not exactly been Employee of the Month in this job - it's difficult to be motivated about something my heart isn't really in, though that's no excuse (by the way I'm talking about things like being late, not things that would impact on patient care - please be assured I look after my patients well and take my duties in that regard very seriously). I do a lot of voluntary work for a couple of charities and am totally on top of that because it's about more than just earning money. Guess I would do that for a living if I was able to (I thought if I got into admin I could maybe ultimately get a job as an administrator for a charity and enter the voluntary sector that way. But also think I would like working with kids).

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leicestershiregirl · 16/08/2011 13:06

Please will people read what I've actually written.

Again, I don't mind people not agreeing with me, I just think they should be nice about it - isn't that exactly what I said above? And being derogatory and telling me I'm like a teenager isn't being nice about it.

Telling me to get off my ass isn't nice either. Are you expecting me to have decided to open a nursery and set in motion the process of opening it since working9whilst5 posted her comment on Sunday evening?!

I've had a problem with lateness and itchy feet when working in dead-end jobs for somebody else - not when doing my voluntary work, which I've been doing for a few years, or doing my degree. So why would I have a problem when working for myself? I'd actually want to be there.

And what's wrong with saying I would be in control of my own destiny? I would be, wouldn't I - isn't that the whole point of being self-employed?

It just seems like a lot of people on here a.) are determined to see me as some kind of dosser and b.) want to have a good bitch at somebody. I'm not wasting Mumsnet's time - if you don't like my thread get off it! Nobody's making you read it! Seriously, I don't understand why people go online to attack people they've never met.

They say you need 10 pieces of positive feedback for every piece of negative feedback in order to be able to shrug off that negative feedback. So where does that thread leave me? You think I'm feeling good now about looking for a new job or even staying in my current one? I'm now 90% certain I should go back to being a SAHM.

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leicestershiregirl · 16/08/2011 13:08

I NEVER SAID BEING LATE IN THE FUTURE IS NO BIG DEAL! Please, please read what I'm actually writing and not what you want me to be writing!

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innishvickallaune · 16/08/2011 13:12

If you don't like your thread, you are also free to hide it.

"They say you need 10 pieces of positive feedback for every piece of negative feedback in order to be able to shrug off that negative feedback. So where does that thread leave me? You think I'm feeling good now about looking for a new job or even staying in my current one? I'm now 90% certain I should go back to being a SAHM."

Come off it! Seriously! If you want to go back to being a SAHM, go back to being a SAHM. If you want to open a nursery, open a nursery. If you want to be a ward clerk, be a ward clerk.

However, if you post very naive stuff about jobs on a thread where you are asking about employability and people respond to this, take it. Or leave it.

What is it that you want from this thread???

Sn0wGoose · 16/08/2011 15:38

leicestershire bear in mind, if you volunteer, you can use your superiors in those positions for referees also.

Imho flitting between jobs for no particular reason doesn't look great, but if you start applying for other stuff you don't really have anything to lose. It's not like you're jacking your job in and then applying for something, iykwim.

The one common thread I can see in your history is working with kids or in a caring role; imho if you change jobs, you might want to try something totally different - maybe that will suit you better.

scottishmummy · 16/08/2011 20:08

op you do use some emotive terms about others "haters"
but quick to get anything you no likey deleted
you have received solid range of advive.naturally some you likey.some not

evidently you interview well,as you obtain jobs. so good luck
and do work on your time keeping

didldidi · 19/08/2011 18:17

Actually op you're right - I think you should be a sahm or work for yourself as you clearly have a problem with authority and working for other people.

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