going back to work on Monday-feeling really blue about it all!

[mumtobe77]

Hi I am going back to work on Monday after having 6 months off...would love to have taken more time off but we really can't afford it just now. It just seems to have hit me today that as of Monday I won't see DS all the time, I won't be there every time he does something new, or when he laughs, cries etc...My mum is going to be looking after him, so I know he is going to be just fine....but I still can't help feeling sad. I've been really weepy today and it's totally not like me! I have been reducing my breastfeeds and switching him to daytime formula in preparation and this has been going ok. On top of this, my work is busy and stressful ( usually!) and I'm also feeling a lack of confidence in my ability to manage such a busy day. I know that I just need to pull myself together and get on with it...am keeping everything crossed and hoping for the best...Any words of encouragement appreciated!

It doesn't matter if it's six months 2.1/2 yrs or 5 its fucking awful. Grit your teeth and be thankful it's your Mum who you can trust - and when you get home on day one that hug will be WONDERFUL.

All I can say is that it feels like the end of the world at the time, but it gets easier, it really does.

No one but you will ever be his Mummy

I know how you feel, been back 2 weeks after 12 months off, 4 days a week. I cried first week but this week I'm feeling better and enjoying being back. That time when you get in and see them is amazing and remind yourself your doing it to provide for them and secure their future. x

I went back to work when DD was 4.5 months. Was incredibly hard but couldn't afford to be off any longer. It does get easier but you never stop missing them. DD is now 10 months and is a happy, cheeky little girl. I get a lovely big hug and grin when I get home. You'll manage, we have to.

I went back 2 weeks ago. Ds is 19 weeks. Dh is sahd so I am main breadwinner.
Yes it's hard especially when you get back and realize the person covering for you has done jack all for the short time you have been off ( finished 10 days before ds was born)
Best bits early morning time and bath time at end of day, the cheeky smile you get when you come home that says "mummy's home" lots of bits still to enjoy
Take a deep breath and go for it and make the time together quality time

Thanks for the replies....will let you know how I get on!

Hi, I went back 2 weeks ago after having 8 months off. DS is with MIL.

To be honest, the thought of going back is alot worse than reality.. we just make the most of the weekends now. I still get b.fast/bedtime with DS so am quite lucky in that respect.. he does cry every morning, which is sometimes hard but he apparently stops after i have driven off!

I didn't have any choice but to go back so decided not to mope around but to just deal with the fact that i have to work ft at the mo.. and am actually enjoying being back! DS is still in a routine, which i was worried about.

Try not to let it get you down.. i know its hard.

Good luck!

It gets better. I went back when they were all very little but it works out fine in most cases and in fact they will probably thank you for it later when they are expensive teenagers.