Go back work in 2 weeks...... HELP!

[amberscow]

I go back to work in a fortnight after nearly 12 months mat leave. going to have to travel 55 miles for work and leaving DD with MIL as dh and rest of family (live with his parents and brother) won't let me put her in nursery.

feeling really anxious now, especially about her feeding properly and getting to sleep as she's just been used to me. can't afford to stay at home with her any longer but would love to.

anyone else in similar situation with words of encouragement for me????

Has she had a few trial days with MIL without you? Might be worth a try.
DS went to nursery when I went back to work after a year. He was surprisingly fine.

Shes had her for few hrs. Ive been saying to mil feed her breakfast or lunch sometimes or cgange a nappy but she doesnt.just like dh.

Are you sure MIL really wants to have her full time then?

You need a proper trial run. You also need to have a very clear talk about:

Meals
Nappy changing
Naps
Activities

Phone your MIL and ask her to look after your daughter for a day this week, followed up by two days next week. But, tell her that you want to practise the routine for going back to work so you will be dropping her off at 8.30 or whenever you would really need to drop her off.

If the trial run goes wrong or it turns out that actually your MIL doesn't really want to have her full time, then at least you still have a week to arrange an alternative.

I live with mil.shes the one who said she wants to cut her hours down at work to have her as my job pays more than hers. So she sees the routine she just isnt actively involved.mite hust tell her im going out thursday and leave dd with her at least till after lunch.

I went back to work today FT and MIL will be having DS. Fisrt day went fine, he cried when I dropped him off but was fine after his nap. Think he is starting the clingy phase! We did a few practice days before hand and she was happy with feeding routine and meals etc..

Thanks girls.ill have some practice days this weeks

What do you mean, the rest of the family won't let you put your child in nursery? It is only you and your DH who have a say in this - everyone else can butt out. If your DH has objections to nursery, then have a proper discussion about it. Your child is nearly a year old now, not tiny, and may very well benefit.

If not a nursery, then a CM might be a good alternative. I definitely would not be leaving my baby with the MIL though; it sounds as though she doesn't really want to do this full time, and isn't that interested in following your wishes for your child