oh God, I go back on Monday - hold my hand!

[bluepanda]

I've been really positive about returning to work after DS2 and telling myself it should be no problem this time as DS1 settled into nursery (eventually) and we were all happy with our arrangement..... With just a weekend to go though I feel like howling every time I look at babba's face!!
It's not helped that he is still a boob lover even though I've tried to cut down in the day he often still sneaks a feed in [embarrassed]. He will drink some cows milk from a cup and is good on solids, so he shoud be fine. He's also a bit of a sleep fighter. So I have visions of my precious sobbing because he's tired and wants a drop of mummy milk.
The rational part of me KNOWS he will settle just like his big brother did, and he's only in nursery two days as grandparents help out a day and both DH and I have a day off in the week. But, but but - come and hold my hand please!!!!

I am back on Monday too!!! Full time :( DS will be with his granny every day so am hoping he will behave for her! Doesn't mat leave go so quickly!

Good time of year to go back though as the bank holidays mean you'll ease yourself in gradually

Just what I was thinking... and lighter evenings with clocks going foward so won't seem so late when I get home!! Going to miss DS, hasn't quite sunk in that it will all change on Monday..

Good luck! I started a couple of weeks ago, and i'm just starting to get into a routine and the DCs seem a little more settled, though it's a killer when DD1 says "don't go to work, mummy" just as I'm leaving in the morning . Apparently it doesn't take her long to forget about me though .

The hardest thing about the sunnier days is sitting in the office thinking of all the nice trips we'd be doing if I were at home.

Good luck! It will be a little hard on the first week or two and then you'll get into a routine really quickly. I have been at work 5 weeks now, it's gone so fast! My DD2 has certainly been easier to adapt than my DS2 - he is such a mummy's boy, but I think that it is because he is 3 as opposed to 1 - I think at 1 they seem more adaptable - or maybe it's just their individual personalities, who knows. I hope it all goes well for you!!! PS my DD2 is also still on the boob so I know what you mean!!!!

Back too tomorrow after year off with ds3. All boys now doing nursery 4 days a week:0( as family not prepared to help. Feel a but sick at the thought too so holding your hand. Good luck- check in tomorrow??

Ladies - hope your returns went well! I had a good day despite the inevitable IT problems (what d you mean, you want to log on??) and the boys had a nice day with daddy. I even came home to a roast chicken in the oven DS2 is having problems teething at the moment and had a bit of a temp, but still survived without me and my boobs (although he has guzzled loads since I came home!) Now just first day at nursery to worry about, but that's not til Friday....

Wow bluepanda - you got your tea cooked!- I'm very jealous.

Well I got logged in to someone elses pc within the first hour but my pc not arrived yet. Boss also decided not to bother turning up and stayed down south but he did organise some meetings and the people were lovely to me so ok on that front. DH left for Manchester at 6am and back tomorrow night but we all got to nursery and back home on time. Nursery only called twice-ds3 wouldn't stop crying (and I couldn't stop crying when I left him) and ds1 got poked in the eye. Ds2 also managed to poo his pants on collection - a nice present for me to clean up. Work really seemed very civilised but missed my boys alot and want dh to come home.

Hope tomorrow goes ok - will be better when you have dh back for moral support. Good on you for doing a TREBLE drop off and pick up on time. I can't imagine doing two...
I am sure I will be crying on Friday when ds2 starts nursery. I remember doing the same with ds1 - thought I'd got it together when the secretary asked me kindly how it went it set me off all over again.

So far so good (kind of..! well i haven't cried yet!)
dh has flu so its made things a bit more tricky with ds when i get home.. feel sorry for single parents! managed to feed me and ds, bath us both, doctors run for dh and pop to supermarket, washing done so now time to chill for an hr then sleep before it all starts again!
ds has cried both mornings when dropped off :( thonk it made me feel better that he was with granny.. apparently he is fine and playing with his toys soon enough!

(think not thonk!)

Feeling bit sad today... Was my 2nd day (phase back). Ds3 went to nursery ok but when I got him he was in a total state... Exhausted, poo nappy ( bum bleeding when I got home) and just sobbing his heart out. Work was not too great - newish role and starting to wonder if I'm up to the job. Boss was in for 30 mins but didn't say anymore than hello before leaving. Also slightly annoyed cos stupid new starter who I sat next to in meeting said 'oh have u been on holiday?' and I said 'no I've had a baby and been on mat leave'. She then says the classic 'oh so you have been on holiday for the last year then'. All I could say back was 'so I take it you don't have children yourself'. She was just young and a bit naive but I felt really crap about this kind of comment. Hope Monday is better.

Bringinghome- I started ds3,on cows milk on his birthday- much cheaper than formula. He's getting a feed off me about 6am and a bottle of milk about 3pm then just b4 bed. Doing bottles just now- haven't the strength for a cup fight. He's a big baby though so sleeps ok through the night. How many times are you up with her? Work ok?

Bringinghome - I have the same problem, any advice welcome please! My 18 months old won't drink any milk in any form apart from booby milk, which she only now has morning/nights. I have tried milk in her cereals (not keen) and milk from a cup she will just spit straight out in disgust!!!!

Back to work in 3 weeks for me. New job, DS in nursery for 2 days and granny for half a day. Visits to nursery start monday coming. Any hints/ tips for things l should check?

Bringinghome - DS2 only 10mo but tbh he is taking so little cows milk from his cup (and still so much breast milk at night....) that my rather sensible HV agreed that was ok. Apparently it's not recommended as a main drink because of the vitamin/ minerals thing but as he's still bf it's ok. Or something. I remember with my first DS though he only really began to entertain the idea of any other milk until after we stopped bf at 15 mths.

Am relieved the first week is over and the first day at nursery done today, both boys cried at drop off but were ok. It can only get easier! And I am lucky, this week has reminded me tho I missed my babies I do love my job and I have a supportive team - not quite sure how I would handle stupid comments, Lollystix - hope next week is better for you

Dantheman - enjoy your last few weeks. Mine do two days nursery and it's a nice balance I think. Use the settling sessions to talk to your DC's key worker and watch them interact with the other babies; I always think a good sign is little ones wandering up to the staff for little cuddles/ affection; not too many children crying; children engaged in activities etc

Have a good weekend all - pass the wine!

please can i join? back to work after 11 months off in 3 weeks and breaking my heart every time i look at my baby girl. she is a boob monster and a mummys girl and i just dont know how im going to leave her. DS (3) goes to the same nursery and he is fine there so i know she will be too in time but still...