Does it sleep?

[tigerdriverII]

This was said to me by a colleague when I returned from maternity leave. She was a very good friend before I became a mother. That was pretty much the only thing (honestly) she said to me when I returned to work, FT at 5 months.

We are several years down the line now, and she has (happily) waltzed off to do her own thing, but...

... I thought about this the other day.

It was really outrageous wasn't it!

Not really. It's the kind of question lots of people ask. Was it the wording that offended you? Why are you dwelling on it now after so long?

Thanks for replying, hairy.

It was something on another employment related thread that made me think of it, also this person came up in conversation recently. I'm not dwelling on it at all, but I do think that a long term friend (we'd been good friends for well over 10 years, or so I thought) could have had just a bit more to say than this, and yes, I found the wording absolutely offensive. "he" instead of "it" would have sufficed and spoke volumes about her attitude. As someone who then had a lot of influence in a relatively small business, it's worrying that she felt this was acceptable. But I realise that this isn't really a "returning to work" issue, although it did happen in the work context.