Stressed out w sick child

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Hi, I have a 23 month old and am pregnant again (14 weeks). I work full time but my dd is constantly sick and has been since for the last 9 months. She was diagnosed w chronic tonsillitis and ear infections and has been on so many different types of antibiotic but nothing helps. She will have an operation end of march hopefully. I work full time but I am finding it very, very hard as she can rarely go to nursery. She often has 40 degree fevers and cannot go so i end up staying at home to look after her and trying to work from home on my laptop. I have been doing this for 9 months now and it is really, really getting me down. I feel like I am being a wimp not being able to cope. We don't have any family around to help out so that isn't an option. Friends all have their own kids and live a good distance away too. DH also works full time.

I am just exhausted and very stressed and also worried about the effect this is having on my current pregnancy.

Is anyone else in a similar boat? No one I know has a child who is as sick as my child. We pay fees at nursery too but rarely use the service which is frustrating..... I'd be interested to know what others think. thanks.

Could you look at getting a nanny instead of using nursery? It will be more expensive but would mean you could actually go to work a lot more than you are at the moment? Childminders are generally more accommodating about illness than nurseries but it sounds as if they could not have your daughter either if she is so ill with fevers etc.

I also hope that your dh is doing his faire share of looking after your daughter? If you are both working fulltime, he should also be taking some days off.

I think you should ask DH to share some of the childcare; as it isn't only your responsibility.

Both DH and I work, but when one of the DC is sick, we take it in turns to stay home and look after them.

The constant illness must be extremely stressful; it's bad enough when they get ill every few weeks in winter, let alone 9 months. I also think a nanny (or nanny share) might be a better option? Maybe keep her in nursery 2 days and nanny 3 days?

Hope she gets better after the surgery. My mum says I was like that for years until I had my tonsils out at 4.

I would fully recommend you take your daughter to an osteopath for a health overhaul.

Can I just ask what an osteopath would do?

Thanks for your replies!

just some words of encouragement - my DD was the same: ear infections non stop, hight temperatures and we were all the time on antibiotics. it was a very tough time. she was always ill, more at home than at nursery.

once we had surgery (grommets and adenoids in our case) things improved dramatically and she was hardly ill anymore.

march is not far away anymore - hopefully, thinks will get better than.

PS: we also do not have family around - DH and I shared the childcare for DD. I don't think it should be all on your shoulders.

if surgery doesn't bring the results you hope for, I would change childcare arrangement (CM or nanny)

An osteopath would physically manipulate the skull and skeleton which would create better energetic flow which could have been sustained through the birthing process and early years. I worked in an oseteopaths that treated ahuge number of children with great success. I am not a fluffy hippy, I have just seen the results from this process; also my own son was treated shortly after being born as his birth was quite traumatic and he has always been supremely healthy.