Not sure where to put this

[MrsSalvatore]

Hi everyone im a returning member to mumsnet, havent been on for a couple of years! Im not sure if this is the right place to post this.

I'm a lone parent who works fulltime at the local preschool where my son attends. This has never been a problem in the last year and a half he has been there with me, I treat him as I would any other child in his class, I do however pass any behaviour issues to another member of staff if they arise involving ds.

Recently we had a parent complain that her child was frightened to come to school because of an issue with another child's behaviour and we were visited by ofsted as a result. This was all fine, we were inspected and no further action is being taken as we displayed that we are capable of dealing with the situation. However, my manager called me into the office afterwards and told me that the parent had been saying its not right that a member of staff has a child there and they were asking things such as how do i deal with his behaviour/issues of him being clingy (which he isnt). I need to make it clear that the child wwith behaviour issues is not ds.

I was stunned by this questioning and very upset, i have been in childcare for 9 years now and myself and none of the other staff can name one time where ive treated my ds any differently at school.

Im tempted to give my job up because of this ive had no sleep for days for worrying about it.

tia xx

Does your manager actually have any concerns, or is he/she just letting you know that one (daft) parent has said something? If your manager is happy and the other staff are happy, I really wouldn't let the ignorant and groundless comments of one of the parents drive you out of your job or cause you to lose sleep.

no she has no concerns, she is as angry about it as me!! The comments the parent has made are completely unfounded but i feel singled out as another member of staff has her grand-daughter there and this wasnt mentioned :-(

You have to find a way of being more thick skinned.
You know that you do a good job.
Your manager knows you do a good job.
Who cares what one random shit stirrer thinks?

thank you, i know i do ive been telling myself that i need to be more thick skinned! I honestly think the woman is trying to make trouble because she is way overdue her fees and is maybe attempting to get out of paying. when she complained to our committee chairperson beforehand it was an entirely different complaint she made

my manager turned up at my home last night with a list of reasons why i shouldnt let this bother me and all the qualities i bring to the pre-school. It has made me feel much better but i still feel quite sick at the thought of seeing the trouble making parent tomorrow

What a lovely manager you have :)

Kill the shit stirrer with kindness. Get practising that fake smile.

Grief. They'd be lucky to have any staff members at our local playgroup if parents with children attending were considered unsuitable to be staff memebers!

And our local primary school has had children of teachers and teaching assistance attend the school (and given it is a small school the parent has had their own child in their class).

This person obviously has no clue of the realities of the situation and has a bee in tehir bonnet about something. If she has concerns then by all means speak to your manager, who I assume has put her mind completely to rest about it.

Bear in mind it won't be too much longer till your ds is off to primary school and this will all be a distant memory.

That parent doesn't have an axe to grind with you personally, she's just looking for ways to get around paying her overdue fees and she thinks you're an easy target. Just ignore her.

it certainly seems that way thevisitor it just riles me that shes so nice to my face and i worry about what malicious rumours she could spread amongst other parents! some of which are my friends and would hopefully come to me if anything was said! no other person has an issue with me working there when my son is there

"it just riles me that shes so nice to my face and i worry about what malicious rumours she could spread amongst other parents"

seriously, don't worry about it.

you now know a LOT about her.
she doesn't know that YOU'VE been told about her allegations.

THe school isn't worried, the non-nutjob parents aren't worried, your manager came knocking on your door to say "actually , I'm not worried"

it's fine. really.

and there's always going to be a black mark against her for spouting nonsense

forget it.