Leaving without a goodbye

[whyknotty]

I am about to be made redundant from a job I love

I've said goodbye to the other staff member by popping in as we haven't worked the same days for a while.

As it's a small business and both employees are being laid off, the boss will have to cover all the hours after our departure, and revert to working 6 days a week.

Knowing that their previously spare time will become non- existent, they have informed me that they will not be in on my last day.

So I'll work alone for that day, lock up and hand in the keys later.

I'm trying to look at it from their (practical) POV but I feel so upset. I could ask to see them but it feels needy?, and it's kind of tainted now anyway IYSWIM

What can I do to make the last day easier?

OOh I just remembered I have a box of roses here. I shall open them and make myself sick too join you

I think you must.

I have switched to popcorn temporarily for a slight sugar dilution.

With fruit juice for 1 of my 5 a day natch

I have no popcorn but have found poppadoms and washigng down with tea. Am getting some of my 5 a day too assuming that strawberry dreams and tangy orange creams count

Don't forget all those healthy proteins in the nut ones

Dairy in every one too.

So in conclusion, surely Roses are a balanced diet?!

I can sympathise. I am currently being made redundant and have been told to stay at home unless I am called to attend the office for meetings with HR. I think I have already done my last day at work but no one has had the courtesy to tell me. No opportunity to say goodbye at all.

The work I do is complex and has deadlines. I would have thought that they would want detailed handover notes however they haven't asked for that and I would be reluctant to do it based on how they are currently behaving towards me.

Good luck.

Mollie

It's so hard not to feel bitter isn't it? And I know, it makes you so negative which for me is not who I am.

Oh what lovely sisters.

Well for you and MollieO remember that when one door closes another one opens.

forasong that's exactly what they wrote in the card that came with the lily!

Are you psychic my sister?!

only 1 more hour. You could probably shut up early I should think. I mean what's the worst that could happen if you did!

It is odd but I'm trying to stay positive. I'm the only one being made redundant too which doesn't help.

I am not that person gillybean, which is probably why I'm trusted to be 'home alone' on my last day!

Mollie, that must be uncomfortable but staying positive is the only thing that can keep us sane I think.

Someone, somewhere is always worse off than me, so am determined not to wallow any more

whyknotty, congratulations on getting through your last day. Onwards and upwards!

Thanks all.

I honestly couldn't have got through today without your support

I feel calmer now it's over and I'm home.

Sounds daft but it feels a bit Matrix like- I thought they were real with feelings but it looks as if they were just a machine masquerading as a human, and have assumed I am the same.

Onwards and upwards indeed

Will feel free once I've handed the keys back and kept my gob shut.

Could she perhaps be planning to send you flowers or something? Her and 2 staff is a bit difficult t have some celebration isn't it?

It's not an occasion for partying....maybe she's devestated. In my opinon the most she could do is invite you out for goodbye drinks....why dont you suggest that?

that she didn't turn up to say goodby in person for you.

well done on getting through. Time to put your feet up and take it easy for a few days until your sisters get there to drag you out to find that new opening door (or window or whatever the metaphor is)

And if you don't want to do it yourself why not get your sister to hand the keys in for you next week.

No flowers will be coming, trust me. Money is v tight, am getting my redundancy in installments.

She left us (me & the other person) some money to treat ourselves to lunch at Christmas. Theres about a tenner left. In an email yesterday she suggested I buy something nice (presume she meant lunch?) with it today. Partying alone didn't appeal somehow so the money is still there.

Sis won't be down during trading hours. Will just give the keys in and run

How are you feeling, whyknotty?

How was the rest of your weekend? Did you drop the keys off today?

Weekend was ok, I felt quite relaxed in the end.

I popped in to drop off the keys and she ran to get me copies of my reference, all smiles. Then the office phone went-a favourite customer of mine so she offered the phone. I was choked by this point and shook my head, she realised I was upset about something and gestured for me to stay but I declined and rushed off

I sent her a text later on to say that I was upset by her non-appearance on Saturday which is why I had left quickly.

Her reply was to apologise that I was upset, the reasons were practical and she didn't think it would be an issue as I am local and therefore likely to see one another. She did not intend to hurt me, and thought I knew her well enough to know that. She intended to speak to me when I came with the keys but has now offered to go for a drink with me today, leaving the other person to mind the shop for a bit on her last day.

I text back to say that emotion is not always logical, I appreciated the apology and that I'd let her know about the drink.

If I feel detached enough I will go. She simply cannot see what the issue is for me, emotion seemed irrelevant and that is her weakness not mine.

I don't want to have residual bad feeling so I think I need to meet her, even if she never 'gets it'.

Why are you bothering with this woman?

She makes you redundant, doesn't come to see you on your last day and asks you to drop the keys off on your way home? It sounds to me as if she never deserved you and you are well rid.

Forget her, move on and find another job. Some bosses have about as much empathy as a dead toad. Conserve your energy for someone who appreciates it.