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Help/support/advice/encouragement needed please

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FreakoidOrganisoid · 02/02/2011 12:15

I'm a single mum, dd is in reception and ds has just started at preschool 3 mornings a week.

And I'm feeling like a waste of space.

I had always intended to go back to work once the dc were at school but ds doesn't start until sept 2012 and that feels ages away.

I'm regretting not taking up the full 5 sessions ds is entitled to, even though I know he isn't really ready for it (struggling a bit with 3)because it means that 3 days a week I just kind of hang about waiting for him to finish preschool. I do my housework etc during this time and go to the supermarket or whatever which is good because it means I make the most of my time with him a bit more but as I don't drive I can't really go to town even without it being a big rush to get back in time to pick him up again. And then I only have a couple of hours before it's time to collect dd. Whereas if I had a couple of full days I would be able to do something more productive with my time (he will do two full days from sept but again that seems an age away)

I feel like I need to work now for my own sake but am struggling with the logistics of it all.

I don't have family nearby, exH lives in the same town but only has the dc one or two nights a month and won't have them on a weeknight because he "has to work the next day" Hmm so I can't do anything that requires shifts or nights.

Job centre did a calculation for me which showed I would just about be better off working part time so the finances don't worry me but I am finding it all very daunting.

I have been keeping an eye open for jobs and have applied for a couple (unsuccessfully) but am generally feeling really pathetic and negative and like it's all too difficult.

So really, I need to be shaken and told I CAN do it, this is how it will work, that I will be able to find a cm who will be happy to do 2x school pick ups at 2 different times, that this is what will happen if the dc are ill etc etc

Please come and help me feel more positive about it...

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Vanillacandle · 02/02/2011 17:05

Have you thought about working from home? Or maybe starting out by doing one of the catalogue-type jobs like Jamie at Home or whatever?

What did you do before DCs? Could you go back to that part-time? Or work in school (no childcare costs in the holidays!)

FreakoidOrganisoid · 11/02/2011 12:25

Thank you for replying vanillacandle, sorry this had slipped down threads I'm on and I thought noone had replied and then forgot about it Blush

Before dc I did mainly admin work. My most recent job was abroad so I left it permanently when I was pregnant with dd and came back here, life would be easier if I'd just gone on maternity leave Smile

Some parts of that job I loved, I was a project coordinator for a media company so sourced external media projects, tendered for them and then oversaw their delivery. All that was great but I also had to do a lot of direct sales and cold calling to try to source work and I hated that part...

I think I would rather get out to work in a business environment than do catalogue type work tbh, just think it is more what I need.

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