Feeling Rubbish about telling work

[0ldieMum]

.. I'm about 10 wks pg... I started a new job about 2 mths ago (think I got pg first week in new job!) and I'm feeling really really guilty about it..

Thing is, I work for a massive company in London then moved house,which then made my commute a living nightmare and I made a bit of a fuss about getting a new job (same company) but in another office nearer home. I got a fabulous job, (same pay etc) am much happier etc etc and my new boss has been brilliant.

How do I tell them that 2 months in, I'm going to be leaving them in the lurch and swanning off on mat leave? I know that no one is indispensible, but they spent quite a lot of time and money giving me what I wanted and I feel I'm throwing it back in their faces... or am I being hormonal and reacting too emotionally?

Any advice MN ladies can give me would be great.. even if it is just to tell me I'm being silly!

Oh and I just KNOW my new boss will be awfully nice to me when I tell him and will be congratulating me, which is wonderful but I might burst into tears and start gabbling about what an ungrateful cow I am to have done this to them.... (yes, I am possibly a bit mad)

Well, it's not a new job is it? It's a new post within the same organisation. So presumably you've given them X years of loyal service until now. There is nothing wrong with getting soon after joining a new company, but that's not even what's happened.

If it makes you feel better in front of the boss, you could always go the old "gosh, erm, it was a bit of a surprise but we're obviously very happy" route. No reason you should have to, but it's damn hard to be awkward if someone says that!

I was in your shoes. New post in same organisation. I got pregnant almost same week as starting the role too!

I felt guilty but soon realised you cant help timing and quite honestly your baby is more important.

Just tell them (or when you are ready)- its not like you have a choice now!

Oh thank you ladies... yes, I've given them 10 years of very loyal service and about a million hours of unpaid overtime, so you're right, I shouldn't feel guilty... I think it was the relief of not having such a stressful life as soon as I left my old job that did the trick and got me pg in the first place! So really it's my new boss's own fault

Still feel bad that it's the new department that has to pick up the tab though, especially when I'm so new there..... ah well...

And yes, I'm sure once I've had the baby i won't give a fig about any of this!