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I thikn my DH is being bullied at work, please advise.

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Hulla · 17/11/2010 09:00

He started working at this organisation in August this year. He was really excited about the job, believed he had good prospects there etc.

He started coming home with stories of other members of the team trying to embarrass him in front of everyone in the office, practical jokes being played only on him, his work being criticised - again in front of everyone and not just by his boss.

A few examples of things they do, most of which is probably just childish but it's every day and I think DH might actually be depressed/suffering from stress as a result of it.

He had to go into another room to do something sort of IT set up (he works in IT). Every few minutes someone would come in and turn the light out and close the door, leaving him working in the dark. So he'd have to get up and turn the light on and start again. He said this happened in excess of 10 times and a job that would take him 30 mins took twice as long. He went went back into the office and the criticised him for taking so long to do a simple task.

They make fun of his weight (he's not overweight particularly but has a bit of belly these days), his receding hair line, his accent, his clothes (he wore a jumper over his shirt when it was cold and they called him all kinds of names inclusing "gay".

He has to work a weekend once every now and then. The weekend before he was due to work another new starter was doing his first Saturday. One of the team told DH that they like to "shit-up" new starters by barging into the office when they're in alone, wearing balaclavas and scaring the crap out of them. DH says they didn't actually do it but he was on pins the following weekend waiting for them to do it to him. He thinks now they just said it to scare him.

Now they've started to make comments on facebook about him, referring to his "fuck-ups" or clearing up his mess. DH says he doesn't know what they mean. His appraisal with his line manager was very positive. His boss says nothing when all this happens.

It doesn't sound much now but I am so angry (about the FB stuff I have just seen) that I can't remember all the things they've done.

He can't look for anything else because they've extended his probabtion period because we had a holiday in September. So he can't have time off for interviews. He is desperate to find something else because of the bullying but I feel like why should he when it's the job he wanted and he wouldnt be leaving if they were professional.

Any advice? I am sorry this is such a long post. I just don't know who to turn to next.

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Hulla · 10/12/2010 09:24

A small update, DH had a week off last week (unpaid leave, agreed with line manager) this week (whilst I was in hospital having erpc) HR called him in, said they disapproved of his absence as not to let it happen again. His probation has been extended too.

He also said his two bosses called him in asking about the mc. He felt they were checking his story - asking why I'd gone to our local hospital when there is a hospital with an epu near where I work and why I opted for erpc ("they don't offer that often" according to dh's boss).

I think he's going to have to start looking for something else after Christmas.

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